Weekend Inspiration ~Your Beautiful Self 2



With the current state of things, we are getting bombarded with a cacophony of news, noise, and messages…and a great deal of it negative. So…for this weekend inspiration blog I want to change the words and float a different message across the lines of static…straight to your heart…to drown out the noise with a gentle reminder that…


“You are beautiful. Know this. Anyone who tells you otherwise is simply lying. You are beautiful.”  ~ Steve Maraboli

“In your own life it’s important to know how spectacular you are.”  ~ Steve Maraboli

“You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed…And you are Beautiful.” ~ Amy Bloom

“Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It’s not like you have forever, so don’t waste any of your seconds, don’t throw even one of your moments away.”  ~ C. JoyBell C.

“Allow yourself to enjoy each happy moment in your life.”  ~ Steve Maraboli


You are beautiful! You are magnificent! You have qualities and gifts that no one has exactly like you. Know this. Remind yourself of it daily. Write it down and post it somewhere you will see it every day. Because it is the truth. Believe it.  ~ MarDrag






All pictures courtesy of Google Images and Pinterest and credited where possible.


Worth and Failure ~ Who Decides


I am inspired to write this blog by a dear online friend I had not “seen” for a while who has been having some life difficulties and wrote about it. She has a lovely blog, and I will add her link to the end of this post so you can visit. The topic she wrote about was failure, or perceived failure, and how it had touched her life and made her feel. She was very brave writing about her deepest feelings…and it touched my heart. What also touched my heart were the responses of love and support she received. And the threads of a blog took hold…

I have written about self-worth and failure before…but this is different. Because I think it is time we set aside our self-flogging weapons and face the fact that we are…Amazing Beings…just as we are.


Here we are…getting up each day to face a horrific world scenario to navigate through, while trying to carve out some life and peace while we are here…very important tasks to be sure! And what do we spend most of our precious thoughts, energy, and efforts on?

In a day, how many times do we berate ourselves, chastise, and mentally beat ourselves up for what we perceive as our failures or inabilities to conquer life, problems, worry, and stress. How much of our inner dialogue is scolding ourselves for not being “more” or criticizing who we are and how we do things? And how much of this inner dialogue is inspired by “what we perceive others are thinking about us”? Or for that matter, telling us in some instances. How many minutes, hours in a day do we spend negatively talking to ourselves?

And…where is it written that we have to believe any of it?


Our old friend, the trickster Fear, is driving that negative bus…and we need to take his license away.

We Fear not being good enough, not doing enough, not being enough or the right way or what everyone else thinks we should be. We Fear that if we do not conform or keep moving and rushing and “doing” that we will not be seen as intelligent or successful or worse…lovable. We Fear if we are not “perfect”, we will not be accepted and loved. Fear gets under our skin…so most of the time we pretend we know what we are doing with ourselves…but underneath, we mourn our true self and life. And we flog ourselves even more for not only failing everyone else, but ourselves as well.

IT’S EXHAUSTING!! When you look at it that way.

And you know the other funny thing? When someone shares with us their feelings of failure…we rush to support them, lift them up, encourage them, and inspire them to see that they are not failures and are worthy lovable individuals, as we should. We would never let someone we love dearly go on feeling bad about themselves without doing something to help them past it.

So…why are we not doing this with ourselves?

Why do we allow ourselves to do the very thing to ourselves that we reassure and urge others not to do and believe? And why do we so readily believe the negative feedback we get, when we tell others to ignore it? Where is that positive cheerleader…for ourselves?


It is time, my Lovely Friends…to put this to rest. There is so much going on that needs our attention, and our positive thoughts, deeds, and light energy. We can’t possibly have enough time or stamina for that attention if we are spending it all on shaming ourselves and fear. We must not give in to the negative energy flow, we must turn it away…it only distracts us from what is really important. Which is being and living our authentic lives…and helping others and this world out of its mess. Put the self-flogging weapons down…it is only then that we will be able to see how wonderful we really are. (Read on for tricks on how to do this).

Here’s the thing ~ We do not need to be stuck on needing to have any “special” gifts…

Because we ARE the special gift…just as we are…our authentic and true self.


So, let’s change our inner dialogue to reflect that belief. Change the negative feedback to positive input. How do we do that? By actively taking steps to retrain our minds to listen to the good rather than the bad.


Try this: write post it notes with positive affirmations and put them up on your bathroom mirror so you read them every morning. (My daughter did this and wow, what a powerful tool!) Leave “dear self” love notes for yourself all over the house. For every negative thought you have, follow it with a positive one. Over ride it with messages of encouragement, to yourself. Tell yourself everything you would tell someone else to lift them up, cheer and inspire them. Give yourself the love you give to others. Put a reminder in your phone or ipad that comes up at various times in the day reminding you that you are amazing and wonderful just as you are. If you hear negativity in the day…wouldn’t it be great to see a different message follow? Make recordings of your voice telling you what is wonderful about you. Actively change how you talk to yourself, your patterns…even if you don’t “believe” it in the beginning, keep at it, because the mind absorbs what we tell it. Soon, you will find your thought patterns will shift…and so will your life.


Decide you are not a failure. It is your decision alone. Just make that decision right now. You are who you are, so how could you possibly be a failure if you are being you.  It is not up to anyone else who we are or whether we are worthy. It is entirely up to us…and what we believe about ourselves will tell others what to believe too.


Make You your best friend. And give yourself the gift of compassion and worthiness…just as you give to others. Tell yourself this, often…you deserve it!




Today’s Selfie


This post is a prelude to a blog I am posting for the weekend. For today…a reminder about how important and beautiful and worthy the Self is. Take these messages in today and make them part of you, for you are special just in being you. And then, if you are inclined, come back tomorrow for more inspiration. My Love and Blessings to you All!







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This post continues the message that…though adversity can do its best to change us and make us sad and bitter…it cannot change the inner core of who we are if we do not let it. ALWAYS be Yourself! Stand in the truth of who you really are deep within, and the adversity does not stand a chance.

Love Yourself, Trust Yourself, and Be Yourself. Nothing else matters or wins.


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Weekend Inspiration ~ About Love


Love 10I Believe In Love. I Believe Love changes everything. Corny…I know. But I believe it to be true. As we move through our days, we experience many different emotions. And depending what is going on in our lives, negative emotions can take over and we can find ourselves trapped in a carousel of feelings that do not promote our well-being. And I believe Love can change that.

Rather than staying in the anger or frustration or sadness…choose Love. Not that you have to love the circumstance or even the person involved…or that you deny your emotions. But…return to Love. It is the only thing that will make anything better. Send Love to the person or circumstance with the idea that you would rather have a solution born of Love than Anger.

And the first step toward this…is through Self-Love. The first person you send Love to…is You! Love yourself enough to do the right thing…for You. And then…all else falls into place. Blessings!

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Sunday Inspiration


I have been talking to people, and hearing from them, about Trust this week…a lot.  Not so much Trust in what is outside them…but Trust in themselves. This is, perhaps, the hardest thing for we humans to do…to Trust ourselves. So, today’s Inspiration post is brought to you by…Trust.

Because it is so true that…

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And by developing and learning from the negative aspects of life, we can remember that those things that happen to us do not define the whole of who we are…

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When we realize we always have a choice about who we are, then…

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So have Faith in yourself and…

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And Trust that, no matter how things go…

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You will always be ok as long as you listen to that inner voice…

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And that path will lead you to…

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And when you strive to do all of those for yourself, you can…

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Believe this…Trust this…Know this…And Remind yourself that…

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For it is WE who know, deep down, what is best for us…and it is only WE who can discover what our True Purpose is. WE must Trust in ourselves…listen to our deep inner voice, and give ourselves the gift of Unconditional Love. Drop any judgment on where we think we are on our path and Trust that we are where we are supposed to be…and that our Inner Wisdom will guide us each step of the way.

When we can Trust ourselves, then we can truly get out of our own way, and allow the river of life to flow, as we ride the current, to true happiness and fulfillment.



For Love Of Self


(I wrote this piece about a year ago, but after this difficult week, it seemed important to post again. I hope that it speaks to you and gives you good cause to pause, and consider yourself and the love that is within…for You!) Blessings!

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“When you’re different, sometimes you don’t see the multitude of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn’t.”  ~ Jodi Picoult

“Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn’t have the time to sit around and talk about you. What’s important to me is not others’ opinions of me, what’s important to me is my opinion of myself.” ~ C. Joy Bell C.

“To the people who love you, you are beautiful already. This is not because they’re blind to your shortcomings but because they so clearly see your soul. Your shortcomings then dim by comparison. The people who care about you are willing to let you be imperfect and beautiful, too.”  ~ Victoria Moran

“How would your life be different if…You stopped allowing other people to dilute or poison your day with their words or opinions? Let today be the day you stand strong in the truth of your beauty and journey through your day without attachment to the validation of others.”  ~ Steve Maraboli

“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” ~ Steve Maraboli

“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.” ~ Carl Jung

“I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.”  ~ Brene Brown

“Always remember, You are loved, You carry the love, You spread the love, You radiate the love, And the love is returned to you.”  ~ Karen Hackel

“Lighten up on yourself. No one is perfect. Gently accept your humanness.”  ~ Deborah Day

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from the Desk of MarDrag:

Loving oneself, oddly enough, is one of the hardest, yet most courageous things we will ever do. Ask anyone, and they will give you a long list of things or reasons why they are imperfect and not deserving of self-love. They may accept that someone else may love them, but when it comes to accepting ourselves for who we are, exactly as we are, in this moment and loving that, we are loathe to do so, and reject the concept.

We are enamored with the idea that our self-worth, our self-love, is dictated by those around us and what they think of us. Are we worthy enough? Are we smart enough? Are we successful enough? Are we pretty enough? Are we charming enough? Are we dedicated enough? Are we giving enough? Are we strong enough? In these questions…what is the common denominator, the common thread/word? ENOUGH! Are we enough of anything to be loved, accepted and even more so, respected and held in high esteem? We compare ourselves to others and think, no, I am not as good, so therefore, I do not deserve to love myself…until I can become *insert word here*, and then I might be good enough to deserve that self-love. And what if, no matter how hard we try, we never “become” that “thing” we dangle in front of us that measures our worth. Will we withhold love of ourselves forever then?

The thing is…we are not nor will we be “enough” to be loved and held in high esteem unless we…without judgment, without question, and without fear…love and accept ourselves completely for who we are at this very moment in our lives…faults and foibles and all. We will never be that perfect vision we have of ourselves because we are human and no one human is perfect. And THAT…is what makes us lovable.

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Today…embrace all those reasons why you hold self-love at arms length, and wrap them in love. The best way to overcome anything is to love it, not push it away or withhold acceptance until it fits your picture of what it should be. And that includes ourselves. We do not withhold our love from those people or situations in our lives that need us until they are perfect do we? No, we love them in spite of all the imperfections and frustrations. Now, we need to do that for ourselves.

Be brave…and love yourself no matter what….and watch yourself blossom in the light rays of Self-Love like a flower blossoms in the light of the sun. Be your own sun, and illuminate the beauty of you and bask in the warmth of your love for yourself.

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Unconditional Love Day


I woke this morning with such a powerful sense of well-being…I wanted to share it with you all. Not every morning is like this…so I shall take advantage of it…and pass the feeling on to you. The phrase that keeps going through my mind is…Unconditional Love…and how little we have this in our lives. So, what if we make a day for it. Just today…just for one day…we practice Unconditional Love…with ourselves, and everyone we meet.

First…look in the mirror at the beauty that is Your Self…and Let Go all the fears, worries, judgments, insecurities and anything else weighing on your mind. See yourself for the worthy being you are…and give yourself the gift of Unconditional Love. Just for today…you Love yourself completely and without conditions. You see your Inner Light grow and glow at the thought of it. And then, you take that Light with you wherever you travel today…and share it with others as you look on them with Unconditional Love…offering them this gift, one they are like to rarely get as well. Let us touch people with our hearts today, and feel how different, how lovely our day becomes. Feel free to share your moments in the comments.

And to help get the day started…here are some quotes to inspire us and get us…in the mood…

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And Then Remember That…..

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I Send My Unconditional Love Out

To Each and Every One Of You

And Wish For You

A Spectacular Day!