(I wrote this piece about a year ago, but after this difficult week, it seemed important to post again. I hope that it speaks to you and gives you good cause to pause, and consider yourself and the love that is within…for You!) Blessings!
“When you’re different, sometimes you don’t see the multitude of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn’t.” ~ Jodi Picoult
“Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn’t have the time to sit around and talk about you. What’s important to me is not others’ opinions of me, what’s important to me is my opinion of myself.” ~ C. Joy Bell C.
“To the people who love you, you are beautiful already. This is not because they’re blind to your shortcomings but because they so clearly see your soul. Your shortcomings then dim by comparison. The people who care about you are willing to let you be imperfect and beautiful, too.” ~ Victoria Moran
“How would your life be different if…You stopped allowing other people to dilute or poison your day with their words or opinions? Let today be the day you stand strong in the truth of your beauty and journey through your day without attachment to the validation of others.” ~ Steve Maraboli
“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” ~ Steve Maraboli
“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.” ~ Carl Jung
“I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.” ~ Brene Brown
“Always remember, You are loved, You carry the love, You spread the love, You radiate the love, And the love is returned to you.” ~ Karen Hackel
“Lighten up on yourself. No one is perfect. Gently accept your humanness.” ~ Deborah Day
from the Desk of MarDrag:
Loving oneself, oddly enough, is one of the hardest, yet most courageous things we will ever do. Ask anyone, and they will give you a long list of things or reasons why they are imperfect and not deserving of self-love. They may accept that someone else may love them, but when it comes to accepting ourselves for who we are, exactly as we are, in this moment and loving that, we are loathe to do so, and reject the concept.
We are enamored with the idea that our self-worth, our self-love, is dictated by those around us and what they think of us. Are we worthy enough? Are we smart enough? Are we successful enough? Are we pretty enough? Are we charming enough? Are we dedicated enough? Are we giving enough? Are we strong enough? In these questions…what is the common denominator, the common thread/word? ENOUGH! Are we enough of anything to be loved, accepted and even more so, respected and held in high esteem? We compare ourselves to others and think, no, I am not as good, so therefore, I do not deserve to love myself…until I can become *insert word here*, and then I might be good enough to deserve that self-love. And what if, no matter how hard we try, we never “become” that “thing” we dangle in front of us that measures our worth. Will we withhold love of ourselves forever then?
The thing is…we are not nor will we be “enough” to be loved and held in high esteem unless we…without judgment, without question, and without fear…love and accept ourselves completely for who we are at this very moment in our lives…faults and foibles and all. We will never be that perfect vision we have of ourselves because we are human and no one human is perfect. And THAT…is what makes us lovable.
Today…embrace all those reasons why you hold self-love at arms length, and wrap them in love. The best way to overcome anything is to love it, not push it away or withhold acceptance until it fits your picture of what it should be. And that includes ourselves. We do not withhold our love from those people or situations in our lives that need us until they are perfect do we? No, we love them in spite of all the imperfections and frustrations. Now, we need to do that for ourselves.
Be brave…and love yourself no matter what….and watch yourself blossom in the light rays of Self-Love like a flower blossoms in the light of the sun. Be your own sun, and illuminate the beauty of you and bask in the warmth of your love for yourself.