Tuesday Affirmations ~ Mistakes

 

I have not done an “Affirmation Tuesday” in a few weeks, so here we are reclaiming it for today.  I seek my “Gift of Affirmations” deck by Amy Zerner & Monte Farber and spread the cards before me. I close my eyes and sweep my hand above them until I feel the heat and energy from the card that wished to present its message today.  That card is:

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The Gift of Illumination: “I Learn From My Mistakes And Grow Wise And Strong”

“Use this gift when you are angry with yourself or other people for having made what you consider a mistake. Expectations are often unreasonable, especially the expectation that you can go through life without making mistakes or having to deal with the mistakes of others. Successful people know that mistakes are valued learning experiences.”

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from the Desk of MarDrag:

People make mistakes. We ALL have made mistakes at one time or another in our lives. There is, in truth, not one person on this beautiful planet that has not made Mistakes. But we can be very hard on ourselves and others, and unforgiving, for these Mistakes.

Now, you all know I am a wordsmith, and I love all manner of words and I think they all have multiple meanings, if we look for them. So, let’s break this word down:

Mistakes is essentially ~ Mis – Takes.

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We, or someone else, missed a take on a situation or issue, and made what we might deem an inappropriate decision or choice, based on the Mis-Take, they made a Mistake. As the quote says above, it is unreasonable to think that we, or someone else, can be so knowledgeable and evolved about everything in life that they would not have a Mis-Take and make some Mistakes along the way.

We learn, in life, by experience and gaining knowledge. But, if we don’t make Mistakes, how do we gain that knowledge. If we know something, we choose and behave accordingly. No Mistake. But, if we do not know about something and there is a lesson to be learned, it stands to reason that lesson would be preceded by a Mistake to show us what we need to pay attention to and learn from.

Most certainly, a person can repeat the same Mistake over and over, not getting the message, and frustrating all those around them. But Mistakes are a part of life, and allowing yourself, as well as others, the space to make them without mocking or judgment, then the potential for them to have the focus, energy and self-confidence to overcome the Mistake, learn from it, and move forward, is increased remarkably.

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If we have to worry about what others think about our Mistakes, or cause others to worry what we think, then the attention gets diverted from the Mis-Take…and the lesson can be lost. This most certainly also applies to how hard we can be on ourselves, berating  and chastising ourselves over Mis-Takes. When we do that, we lose and use up precious energy that should be spent on recognizing and learning the lesson, implementing whatever changes are called for from that lesson, and then moving on to a better place because of it.

Focus on compassion, for yourself and others, and don’t judge those Mistakes. Make them, learn from them, and grow Wise and Strong from them…and encourage others to do the same.

Blessings!

Forgiveness of the Self

 

“Forgiveness of Self is impossible until you stop longing for a better past.” ~Author Unknown

“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” ~Marilyn Monroe

“No amount of self-improvement can make up for any lack of self-acceptance.” ~Robert Holden

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” ~Siddhartha

“We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.” ~Dalai Lama

“We are all full of weakness and errors, let us mutually pardon each other our follies” ~Voltaire

from the Desk of MarDrag:

We are Human…in beauty, grace, love, and light…but we are flawed too. We are taught to aspire to be the best human being we can be…but sometimes we fail at that. Because, gasp, we are human. What a conundrum!

We are all our own unique tapestry, events in our lives weaving the pattern that makes us who we are. Sometimes the thread gets caught in the needle, sometimes it snaps, breaks away from the weave and has to be repaired and blended back into the overall picture of the tapestry again. Where it is mended, sometimes we can see the flaw…but each and every thread, each snap, each patch or repair, each flaw…is exactly what makes that tapestry unique, special, unlike any other tapestry. Without them, we would be factory manufactured wall hangings.

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As humans, sometimes we make mistakes or missteps. They can be hurtful…to ourselves and to others. And we can regret them miserably and feel like we can never forgive ourselves for them. We feel that we should have known better. But, knowing better comes from making mistakes and learning from them. If we had “known better” then we would not have made the mistake. But, how can we know better without making the mistake first? Another conundrum.

When we can’t forgive ourselves for past mistakes or missteps, we can turn our insides into knots of despair over things that have long passed. Most of the time, we are the only ones thinking about it. Everyone else has moved on. But because we aspire to be a better person, we look back and cringe and think, no, I am no better than that mistake. And that is not true. If we look at our mistakes and learn from them, those errors in judgment are no longer a part of us. The cycle gets completion. Mistake – lesson learned – forgive yourself – let it go. Personal growth occurs, and we evolve into that better person we wanted to be. And that mistake, then, is no longer a part of us now…but a part of the person we used to be. Let it go.

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Hanging on to past mistakes by not forgiving ourselves clogs the energy paths through which new and good things come to us. It can only still affect us if we keep dragging the past into the present. Clear the path – let the past go back to where it belongs – in the past. Even if it was just yesterday.

A question to ask ourselves is…”If this is still part of my life, and if it still affects me, why is it still important to hold on to, do I still need to learn a lesson?” If the answer is yes, then set about working on it. Just taking action within yourself will make you feel better. But if the answer is no, and you are just obsessing over something you can no longer change, then Let. It. Go. It harms no one but yourself…and you can’t move forward with a sack of regret and self-loathing hanging on your back.

That is not what God, or the Higher Powers, or the Divine want for us. We humans made this up. And it is not in the Divine Plan. The Divine Plan is for us to be happy, healthy and empowered. Why do we argue with that plan so much?

So, we must forgive ourselves. And know that in the bigger picture, in the full scope of our tapestries, there are many gorgeous, wonderful threads that make up who we are, not just those mistakes and flaws. In the grand picture, those are just imperfections that make the tapestry unique. And when you step back and look at the full picture, they are a small part of its entire scope.

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At any given moment, you have the power to say, this is not how the story ends.

A quick exercise ~ In the next 15 minutes, if you can do something about that thing that is bothering you, go do it. If there is nothing you can do, for the next 15 minutes…let it go, and do not worry about it. Just for 15 minutes, let yourself have peace. Take a deep breath and put it outside your boundary. And feel the relief and peace. Practice this as mush as possible and then extend 15 minutes to 30 minutes…then an hour, couple of hours, then a whole day. Sometimes we have to retrain our minds to step off a pattern we have been doing for a long time. With practice, it becomes the new pattern, and becomes a part of the person we want to be, which in honesty, is who we already are.

Blessings!

Inspiration For A Saturday

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Good Morning! The weekend is upon us and visions of fun, rest and relaxation dance in our minds. I wish for you all of these and more as you embark on these two days of freedom! And to give you something to carry with you in your bag of thoughts, a bit of inspiration to light your way. May your days be full of joy, care, love and laughter! Blessings!

As “From Cocoon To Butterfly” reminded us…

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And as we are tested and challenged, consider…

Wind Destination

We will always, at some time or another, be faced with obstacles. But know this…

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Know that the sum of all of who you are, the Whole You, is greater than,

any obstacle before you.

And when the road becomes damp and slippery…

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Give yourself that gift, and then…

Let Go Of Past

Challenges

Know this Truth with all your Mind, Heart and Soul…

Always Remember

There, too, is Magic to be had within if you…

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And when you work your Unique and Purely You Magic…

About To Happen

So…Always….

Be Yourself

Be good to yourself and…

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My Heart Streams Love and Good Energy To You All!

May You Know The Wonder Of You!

Blessings!