“The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.” ~ Gloria Steinem
“Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean.” ~ Maya Angelou
“It is wise to direct your anger towards problems — not people; to focus your energies on answers — not excuses.” ~ William Arthur Ward
“Usually when people are sad, they don’t do anything. They just cry over their condition. But when they get angry, they bring about a change.” ~ Malcolm X
“Anger is just anger. It isn’t good. It isn’t bad. It just is. What you do with it is what matters. It’s like anything else. You can use it to build or to destroy. You just have to make the choice.” ~ Jim Butcher
“Anger is like flowing water; there’s nothing wrong with it as long as you let it flow. Hate is like stagnant water; anger that you denied yourself the freedom to feel, the freedom to flow; water that you gathered in one place and left to forget. Stagnant water becomes dirty, stinky, disease-ridden, poisonous, deadly; that is your hate. On flowing water travels little paper boats; paper boats of forgiveness. Allow yourself to feel anger, allow your waters to flow, along with all the paper boats of forgiveness. Be human.” ~ C. JoyBell C.
“If you try to get rid of fear and anger without knowing their meaning, they will grow stronger and return.” ~ Deepok Chopra
“How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it.” ~ Marcus Aurelius
“There are two things a person should never be angry at, what they can help, and what they cannot.” ~ Plato
“Anger is a valid emotion. It’s only bad when it takes control and makes you do things you don’t want to do.” ~ Ellen Hopkins
from The Desk of MarDrag:
Anger…one of the most powerful emotions we can feel. Like Love…another powerful emotion…Anger comes from deep within us and bubbles and froths to the surface. It can seethe like a fissure, or explode like a volcano. Its source is rooted deep within us, yet often we do not realize this, and only acknowledge or feel the surface aspect of Anger.
Anger is that emotion that, too, gets a bad name for itself. But…it is not the Anger itself that should be blamed…but the actions we choose to take in its name.
I went looking for a definition of Anger from my old, tattered, dusty yet trusted friend, the Oxford American Dictionary that still sits in its exalted place on my desk. Here is what it offered:
Anger: a feeling of great annoyance or antagonism as the result of some real or supposed grievance; rage; wrath; A strong feeling of displeasure or hostility.
Source: [1100 – 1200; from Old Norse angr, grief or sorrow; Old High German; anguish; related to Old English enge, Latin angere to strangle]
Reading the definition of Anger gives great insight to its true meaning, and gave me pause to think. For, it is true that, when we get Angry at someone or some situation, it is because we perceive a grievance, or that we are wronged in some way, lied to, and oh so many more reasons too numerous to name. But you know! So, that hostility roars to the surface and demands to be displayed. The grievance that we perceive has made us feel vulnerable, splayed open by its indignance…and we want to strike out and show our displeasure.
But…let us look at the source of the word Anger…from the Norse and German origin…meaning grief, sorrow or anguish. Reading this gave me a deeper understanding, then, of where Anger comes from. When we feel Anger…we are not merely Mad…we are hurt, sad, pained, betrayed…a whole plethora of other emotions we fail to consider…as we wrap them in this emotion of Anger…which is seemingly easier to acknowledge, and deal with. We hide from the vulnerability needed to acknowledge that there is a deeper emotion at the source of the Anger because it appears to be a risk not lightly taken.
So consider this…Anger can be a very healthy emotion to allow. Of course, if it takes over and, as one of the quotes above says, makes us do or say things we should not, then we need to gain control over it. But, if it is Authentic Anger…it will not lose control. In fact, Authentic Anger is very much in command of itself…for it comes from our willingness to be open about the true emotion it swells from. Authentic Anger can be a great motivator. Authentic Anger contains truth and openness and feels right. Inauthentic Anger has no real direction…it just sits there festering. Authentic Anger leads to intuitive guidance…no more second-guessing of our feelings…and it flows and moves through us. Which is the healthy way to process Anger, and use it properly. And…we can feel the difference. We can be in control and open at the same time.
Give Anger intelligence…and it takes on a different voice.
We should give Anger its due by taking the risk to admit what we really feel. Even if it is just to ourselves. Anger will then take on its pure role, and we can use its motivation to move forward with a decision or a resolution or solution…rather than just sitting within the haze of the Anger. It is a motivator for movement…not to be used as a block to stalemate. It can feel good…if we move it along.
Authentic Anger…simply IS…so we must be the conductor of the orchestra of our lives and direct the energy. We must direct that energy to manifestation. Where and to what would we truly direct it? A question…to be answered…within the circle of our truth.