“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” ~ Winston Churchill
“Success is getting what you want, happiness is wanting what you get.” ~ W.P. Kinsella
“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” ~ Confucius
“A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and gets to bed at night, and in between he does what he wants to do.” ~ Bob Dylan
“If it’s not exactly like you thought it would be, you think it’s a failure. What about the spectrum of colors in between.” ~ Sara Evans
from The Desk of MarDrag:
The last quote above I posted on the “Thoughts for The Day” blog this past Thursday. It got a few comments, and caught my attention as well as being a subject spoken of with two of my clients this past weekend. Success…and what does it mean? How do we identify it? And should we judge ourselves or others for what we deem a lack of Success.
Here is the blurb I wrote on my thoughts about the quote:
“In this world of “instant gratification”, I believe the judgment of success or failure has become skewed. If something or someone does not hit instant, major, global, phenomenal, major success status immediately upon launching whatever endeavor is being attempted, then it is deemed a failure. And so…we have pictures and expectations in our minds about how we want our endeavors to go and how we think we should reach our goals. And if the outcome does not look the way we thought it should…then we feel we have failed. But as the quote says…what about all the colors…or levels of success in between. On the color spectrum, there is black and white on either end. One success, one failure. Now…what about all those other colors in between that count for a level of success or completion or lessons learned to do better next time. No color is wasted on that spectrum. So, no moments we spend in our endeavors are wasted either. Take the crayons of life and color your world with ALL the colors of what you have done, achieved, and struggled with…for all those colors make up the entire picture…of YOU.”
I wanted to repost that here, and expound on it a little bit because…it is so important for us to recognize that no matter where we are on the color spectrum of Success…it is still Success. I believe we focus so much these days on why something did not happen, or that it did not happen the way we wanted it to…or it has not happened yet…or we have a lofty goal that we could not attain…or we compare ourselves to others and their level of Success…and all the while we are focusing on these things…we are forgetting to take a good look at what we have accomplished and give it the recognition it, and we, deserve. Even Failure can be considered a Shade of Success if we learn from it and move forward with a new Wisdom and try again…and again…until we create what we want or find out something even better awaits.
See, the truth is, in the span of our lifetimes, we will have many Successes and Failures in varying degrees and shades on the spectrum. But that is just it…it is still “on the spectrum”. Even if something does not work out, we were Successful in trying it and taking a chance or risk. We gathered our Courage and put ourselves out there. Even if it did not work out, we Succeeded in the Effort…and that counts for something. That builds up over the years and counts in the basket that holds our Self-Confidence and Self-Worth. If we do achieve the Success we sought in the endeavor, then we reap the benefits…and still move on to try something else.
So…Success is a Journey as well as a Destination. And there are many Shades of Success on the spectrum, and we fall on any one of those colors all the time. We just need to see it for what it truly is…a…Shade of Success…and color our lives with that, so we can keep moving and not get stuck in a rut of “perceived” Failure. I say it in quotation marks because Success and Failure are really all in the way we look at things.
Let’s look at all those Shades of Success (between the black and white of Success and Failure) and map our paths in a new way. If Efforts are made and Chances are taken and Lessons are learned, we are a Success. Let us Empower ourselves, and others, to see that Failure really cannot exist…when we have such a rich, full, spectrum of Shades of Success.