It is that time again…time for “Tuesday Affirmations”. The cards practically jumped into my hands today, so ready were they with a message for us. The card that came forward (from the deck “The Gift of Affirmations by Amy Zerner and Monte Farber) is:
The Gift of The New: “I Love and Accept Myself As A Unique Individual”
The Message: “Use this gift when it seems that you are not being accepted for any reason, but especially if it is because you are different from other people or you want to be different. You do not need the acceptance of ignorant or intolerant people. You cannot change anyone else. What you need is to love and accept yourself for being a good person.”
from the Desk of MarDrag:
Being accepted. From the time we go on our first “play date”, we experience the feeling of wanting to be accepted by others. Then pre-school and fights over Play-Doh invade our lives…and the push is on. The questions that will play in our minds for the rest of our lives begin. “Will they like me”…”Why don’t they like me?…Why do they like them and not me?”…”What do I have to do/be to be liked?”…and a myriad of other questions and thoughts that plague us. Because, all we really want…is to be accepted…as we are and for who we are.
As we grow up, we learn the hard lesson that not everyone accepts and likes everyone. There will be some who…for whatever reason…just do not like or accept us. It is easy to allow that opinion to impact us and leave us wondering why…am I not good enough…am I different…and what do I need to change so I am accepted “just like everyone else”.
The things is…”accepted just like everyone else”…is a thought that is really only in our minds. Because everyone experiences these same emotions of feeling unaccepted. Even the most popular and well-liked people have their insecurities. It just doesn’t “look” like it from where we stand because we are captured in a cloud of our own dissatisfaction with ourselves. We tend to think the hardest about ourselves…and that, surely, everyone else feels ok. And that makes us feel “different”. Which becomes another reason not to be accepted. A vicious circle.
But what I find, and believe…is that virtually everyone feels this way most of or at some time in their lives. So…we are all really not that different. With respect to our emotions that is! Yet we are each Unique in our individuality, so special that there is no one other person who is just like us…and that is what makes the world such an interesting place. Would we want it any other way?
Yes, there are those that criticize and chastise and ridicule…but this (I believe) is because their own insecurities are so great that they must put others down in order to raise themselves. Most of the time, however, that “raise” is just in their minds as well.
So…if we are all Unique…yet experience the same emotions…what matter is it if we are not accepted by someone else? The only person that should matter…is US. The most important person in our lives to accept and love us…is US. If we fall in love with ourselves, and accept ourselves for the whole of who we are…who could possibly resist doing the same? We would give off that energy…and it is catching!
Love and Acceptance starts within. When we Love and Accept ourselves…then we are far more likely to Love and Accept others. It is a chain reaction.
You are Unique and Wonderful and Brilliant and Lovable…just being You! Love and Accept your Amazing Self…and the world will follow your lead! And if they don’t…it won’t matter! The people in your life who Love and Accept you as your Unique self are who matter…not the ones that don’t.