“Judging is preventing us from understanding a new truth. Free yourself from the rules of old judgments and create the space for new understanding.” ~ Steve Maraboli
“Love is the only mirror we must use to judge ourselves and others.” ~ Bodie Thoene
“Don’t concern yourself with the opinions of those who judge you. That is placing on them an importance they do not have.” ~ Donna Lynn Hope
“A person that judges others will inevitably judge themselves harshly. It is only when one stops judging others that one can truly appreciate the beauty within.” ~ Ando Oomae
“How would your life be different if…You stopped making negative judgmental assumptions about people you encounter? Let today be the day…You look for the good in everyone you meet and respect their journey.” ~ Steve Maraboli
“If someone isn’t what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.” ~ Paulo Coehlo
“As long as we continue to live as if we are what we do, what we have, and what other people think about us, we will remain filled with judgments, opinions, evaluations, and condemnations. We will remain addicted to putting people and things in their “right” place.” ~ Henri J.M. Nouwen
“You can’t judge people and touch their souls at the same time.” ~ Tama Kieves
from The Desk of MarDrag:
On yesterday’s post, “Thoughts For The Day”, one of the quotes I wrote about was on how we treat people and Judgment. I have been pondering on the subject since then…and was compelled to write a post focused on the word…the concept…of Judgment.
We have all experienced Judgment…and being Judged. It is a notion that sweeps through our lives on a daily basis, whether we are the ones being Judged, or doing the Judging. In a (or perhaps MY) “perfect world”…I would take that notion, that word, out of our vocabulary completely…because I do not think it enhances our lives in any way.
Yet…it seems to have become a wave that is gathering water…growing and roaring…and swallowing our tolerance for our fellow human beings. It breaks my heart! Because each and every one of us have our life story, have walked the pavement of our lives, have trudged the hills and valleys…and just for that accomplishment…we deserve respect.
Judgment is an impulse…born of our own insecurities about ourselves. If…we truly loved our own selves unconditionally…we would not be compelled to Judge someone else for what or who they were or were not, or their actions. We can have an opinion…an impression…stand by our standards and what we personally view as right or wrong…but it is not within our right to lay that upon anyone else. Our perception is just that…our perception, based on where we have come from and what we have learned in our lives. The person standing next to us has had a different life…and has their own perception. Would we have it that they lay their perceptions upon us?
And yet…again…we have all experienced this. We have been Judged and held for wanting. And the worst culprit of that Judgment upon ourselves…is US! How harshly do we Judge ourselves, our thoughts, our actions…within one day? How aware are we of the dialogue that fills our minds about the beliefs we have about our worth? How much insight or compassion do we have and show ourselves for doing the best we can in this moment?
Judgment attacks a souls’ worth. Whether it is of yourself or another.
When we feel the urge to Judge…perhaps we could stop for a moment…and replace that thought with Compassion or Love. While a Judging thought creates anger and frustration (toward the self and others)…a thought of Compassion or Love creates a feeling of well-being, tolerance and acceptance…something we all want and need in our lives.
Life these days, in this world we have become confronted with, is hard. I believe one of the reasons things are as they are is because we have forgotten that we are here to share this land with each other, share our Love, and live our lives in Harmony. What use then…is Judgment?
So, the next time you are faced with a Judgment upon yourself from someone else…cast it off. Do not make it your own…for it is nothing having to do with you. It is the other persons’ perception…and only that. And…the next time you are taken by a whim to Judge someone else…ask yourself to what purpose is it…and then turn that thought into a loving one. YOU feel better…you make the other person feel better…and then you feel even better for making someone else feel better. Get it? Wink!
And now…I have waxed philosophic for a long post here…but I feel so strongly about this. I believe everyone has a right to their lives…successes, failures, unwise choices, silliness and all. And I Judge no one for who or what they are. I have not walked your path…I have not had my toes pinched by your shoes…I have not had my heart broken or soul mangled by your pain…nor have I experienced your pleasures and joys. So…who am I to Judge?
I send each and everyone of you Loving Thoughts today…and everyday…and Blessings and Wishes for the Best for you. My heart soars with Love…my soul spills over with Compassion…because you are all Magnificent Beings in your own right, doing the best you can…and You deserve to know that you are worth it!