“At fifteen life had taught me undeniably that surrender, in its place, was honorable, especially if one had no choice.” ~ Maya Angelou
“The greatness of man’s power is the measure of his surrender.” ~ William Booth
“You need to trust, To surrender, To ask for guidance, Go within for the answers, They’re within you, You have the answers, All you need do is ask.” ~ Karen Hackel
“Listen through your screams to the wind still whispering: Don’t give up — Surrender!” ~ Eric Ganther
“What is given to you is what is needed; what you want, requires giving up what you don’t need.” ~ George Alexiou
“Surrender is a powerful force.” ~ P.C. Cast
“Something amazing happens when we surrender and just love. We melt into another world, a realm of power already within us. The world changes when we change. The world softens when we soften. The world loves us when we choose to love the world.” ~ Marianne Williamson
“Always say “yes” to the present moment. Say “yes” to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
from The Desk of MarDrag:
In Monday’s post this week, I spoke about a theme that evolved from some conversations I had been having and some questions I had been asked on the topic of “The Life We Would Live” or…the life we plan versus the life that is waiting for us…and the transformation (Tuesday’s post) that would need to happen to get from one to the other. I mentioned that, one of the steps that would aid that transformation is Surrender…and I promised you a post about it. Here is that post.
First, we must remember that, while we are a force in our own lives and have the power to move, drive and change our lives…there is also the truth that life itself is a force and has a power of its own. Add to that the idea that God or the Higher Powers have a plan for us…and suddenly there are a mix of influences that drive the vehicles of our lives. Along the way, we are faced with life issues and events that we have to solve and consider, AND we have our own wants, needs and desires that we would like to see fulfilled. All of these things combined can be overwhelming as we move through each day, fighting for a better life and to find happiness and peace. It can be confusing trying to discern what kind of action we should take to have the kind of life we want.
But here is the thing….we cannot always see what is best for us or the appropriate or significant answer to a situation. I also believe we ALL have a special place here in this world. We are all unique and individual threads in this Great Tapestry, and there is a purpose to our specific threads. And I believe that, if we are creating a life counter to that purpose, that is when things do not go right for us, or we come upon problems that we might not otherwise have. If we are trying to force our life into a mold that is not meant for us, it won’t fit, and it will spill over into something we are always mopping up.
This becomes evident when we resist what comes to us, when we deny or try to change things or circumstances that come into our lives for a reason. If we embrace all the joys, and accept them as gifts…as well as embrace the hardships as lessons that are meant to help us grow and find ourselves, then we can relax more and trust that we are on the right path.
This act of embracing and trust is called…Surrender.
Understand…it is NOT the same as giving up or giving away control or power over your life. It is about “accepting what you can not change, changing what you can”, and allowing your life to flow TO you, not against you. We can spend a great deal of energy trying to make things happen that are not meant for us while we miss or clog the energy lines for those things that ARE meant to come to us. Most of the time, those things are more amazing than the ones we are fighting for that are not working.
Consider this analogy: Our hair grows from our hair follicles that are connected to our heads. Within our head is a lot of energy and nutrients that feed the follicles that send the energy and food to our hair to make it healthy, all the way to the ends. When we do not take good care of our hair and do things to it to damage it, it gets dry, brittle and creates split ends. So….all the energy and nutrients that are fed from the head and the follicles flow through the hair to the split ends…trying desperately to heal those damaged ends, but it can’t and so the energy leaks out the ends, not able to even feed the good hair. And we end up with lank, flat, droopy hair that has no bounce or health to it. When we get a haircut and snip the damaged ends off…suddenly, all that great energy and nutrients have a renewed ability to feed ALL of the hair and return it to its healthy, vibrant beauty…and we feel so much better about ourselves. We must Surrender in the knowledge that we can’t heal the ends, and let them go, so that we can return our hair to the vitality and health we want and desire it to be.
And so, in our lives, we must Surrender to the idea that we can not fix everything, we can not change people, we can not hold on to things that are not good for us, and we must, at times, Surrender to the right thing to do, even if it is painful. When we let go of that which is not working, or that we can not change, and let it be until it either rights itself or we find a way to deal with it or move on…then all the energy we have spent in that direction, can now be funneled into creating and/or allowing what is truly meant to come to us to find its way. When we Surrender, Answers have a way of coming to us that we would not see otherwise. And the bonus is…we will no longer be fatigued with a lack of energy. When we are following the rightness of our paths, we actually GAIN energy. When we follow our wise and true voice and our passion, we gather energy from that.
When we Surrender to our true lives, we eliminate so much pain and waste of our abilities and gifts….and we have more to give to the good things in our lives. Surrender is the powerful act of the wisdom of knowing when to fight or when to concede.