The Life We Would Live


“I’m not in search of sanctity, sacredness, purity; these things are found after this life, not in this life; but in this life I search to be completely human: to feel, to give, to take, to laugh, to get lost, to be found, to dance, to love and to lust, to be so human.”   ~ C. JoyBell C.

“Choose your battles wisely. After all, life isn’t measured by how many times you stood up to fight. It’s not winning battles that makes you happy, but it’s how many times you turned away and chose to look into a better direction. Life is too short to spend it on warring. Fight only the most, most, most important ones, let the rest go.”   ~ C. JoyBell C.

“There isn’t any such thing as an ordinary life.”  L.M. Montgomery

“Be comforted in the fact that the ache in your heart and the confusion in your soul means that you are still alive, still human, and still open to the beauty of the world.”  ~ P. Harding

“Life has its own forces which you can only discover by living.”  ~ Soren Kierkegaard

“All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.”  ~ Havelock Ellis

“One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today.”  ~ Dale Carnegie

“Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens.”  ~ Khahil Gibran

“Happiness can not be traveled to, owned, earned, worn, or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.”  ~ Denis Waitley

from The Desk of MarDrag:

There was this quote on Sunday’s inspiration blog that caught my attention: “We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” ~ Joseph Campbell. It culled my notice because I had been speaking with a few of my clients this past week about this very subject. And so, it has inspired the theme for the posts this coming week.

It is such a fine line to walk, when considering where to lay the threads that are woven into the tapestries of our lives. Which direction do we wish them to be sewn into? And do we have a say in it, should we draw out the pattern….or do we let destiny and the Higher Powers direct the weaving of those threads on some invisible pattern we know precious little about yet. Do we take action, or do we let life come to us? Thoughtful questions.

And those questions bring to mind the line from “The Serenity Prayer”…”God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

You see, I believe there is a time to take control, take action, and make things happen. IF it is with the things we have the courage to change, and they are changeable. But I also believe that there are some things in our lives that cannot be changed, no matter how hard we wish they could or would or how hard we work to make it happen. Sometimes they are not ready. If it is not changing, there is a reason for that, and we must accept it and look to another direction or opportunity. The wisdom is in knowing the difference…and not fighting the truth of it.

We all have pictures in our minds and desires in our hearts of what we want our lives to be, to look like. But, what we desire is not always what is best for us…or what is true to our souls. Our true life. So we must be willing to let go of those visions, and ask the better question…”what is right to happen for me”? It is a tough one, because we think we know best for ourselves, and mostly we do, but as another quote above says…”Life has its own forces”…and we cannot deny those forces. For if we do, they will end up working against us. Or it will appear that way. What’s more, many times what we have planned for ourselves is not near as great as what the Higher Powers have planned for us and what comes to us is far more amazing than we could have imagined.

As Havelock Ellis says…”the art of living is a fine mingling of letting go and holding on”. Look at what you are holding on to. If it is working and moving you forward, hold on and take action. If it is stalling, not working or changing, and not advancing your life to a better place, then perhaps it is time to let go of it and look for what is right for you and your life. There are so many opportunities and we have so many gifts within us to use…do not limit your life!

In order to do this, we must…Surrender. Which is not what you might think. So this will be the topic of the next post for the theme this week of…The Life We Would Live.


4 comments on “The Life We Would Live

  1. Good morning and happy Tuesday, where did a Monday go?
    Very good quotes and words to think about it. Great way to start the day. Taking control of our lives, if we don’t like it, change it. It’s our life to live it, leave previous notions behind, previous mistakes behind, just go forward. Then we can enjoy our life better 🙂

  2. Hi Mardrag and everyone!

    This is a very thought provoking blog. Holding on vs. letting go. Knowing when to ‘cut your losses’. Tough stuff. I think the key is having solid personal standards and the ability to be truthful with yourself. After having learned a lot about our ‘wise voice’ from your blogs, I believe that our wise voice guides us. But the hard part seems to be – do we listen? Speaking for myself, I listen but I don’t always act on it.

    This was a very rich topic. Thank you for writing about it. Maybe we have another Theme Week?! I love when that happens. 😀

    Have a great day!

    • Hi Boobah! The hard part IS always listening, and then following the guidance our wiser voice gives us. We do use our conscious minds to “justify” not following that wiser voice…but being aware of that is a first great step. Keep this in mind, and it becomes easier and easier to be guided.

      We do have another “theme week”! Stay tuned! 😀

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