It is “Affirmation Tuesday”, and I take to my cards “Gifts of Affirmations” by Amy Zerner and Monte Farber to bring you the message for the day. Here is the card I pulled for you today:
The Gift of Charisma: “I Deserve Love and Respect Because I Give Them”
“Use this gift when you feel that you are not getting the love and respect you need and deserve. If you are able to show your love and respect for other, they should do the same for you. It is not egotistical to demand respect. This affirmation can empower you to tell others how you feel in an appropriate manner.”
from the Desk of MarDrag:
We, as children, are taught about Love and Respect and the importance of giving those to others. We are taught to give selflessly, help others, Respect our elders, Love our neighbors and do unto others as we would have others do unto us. It is fairly easy to grasp these concepts as children and practice them in earnest.
But, I think, as we grow older and cast a wider net in experiences, we can find it more difficult to keep to those teachings, especially when some of those experiences indicate that others have forgotten about Love and Respect themselves. The current climate of our society is one of instant gratification and self promotion and it seems to be founded in the concept of “all for me at all cost.” It can leave those of us who still live by those teachings of Love and Respect disappointed and discouraged and we can lose our own notion that we ourselves deserve Love and Respect.
But, except for those who have chosen to deny those two concepts and have done heinous things to another, we all deserve to have Love and Respect from people in our lives. However, in order to feel worthy of that from others….we must first and absolutely Love and Respect ourselves and hold ourselves in high regard for who we are and our contributions to this world. We teach others how to treat us by how we choose to treat ourselves. And if we do not treat ourselves with Love and Respect, others may think they do not have to either.
It is not selfish to require or even demand Respect from others….it is a form of what I call “Selfness”. It is in the realm of taking care of ourselves and making sure that, as we give of ourselves to others, we are also getting back what we need to fill ourselves and replenish what we give. Absolutely no one can give and give and not need anything in return to replenish what has been provided, albeit freely.
We must Love ourselves enough to want to give back to ourselves as much as we give to others. And we must Respect ourselves enough to know that this is right and appropriate. We can be an example to others by embracing these two concepts regarding ourselves and show others, as well as the Universe as a whole, that we understand we are unique and wonderful beings and are worthy of the Love and Respect of all, especially those who we do so much for around us.
If you are feeling you do not have the Love and Respect you ought to have, use the affirmation above to instill within you that you do, in fact, deserve them and begin to change the pattern by first giving them to yourself. If there are people in your life who continue to take advantage of you, it is not wrong to consider having an appropriate conversation with them and let them know how you feel. It helps to teach them how you expect to be treated. And that you are worthy of that expectation. If they are unwilling, then they may not deserve the Love and Respect you have for them after all, and you can make a decision, from your strength and power, whether to continue the relationship or not.
But, the most important relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself. Strive to show yourself Love and Respect every day, for you deserve it!