“Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom.” ~ Soren Kierkegaard
“Worrying is carrying tomorrow’s load with today’s strength- carrying two days at once. It is moving into tomorrow ahead of time. Worrying doesn’t empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.” ~ Corrie ten Boom
“Each moment of worry, anxiety or stress represents lack of faith in miracles, for they never cease.” ~ T. F. Hodge
“Anxiety’s like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you very far.” ~ Jodi Picoult
“Man is not worried by real problems so much as by his imagined anxieties about real problems.” ~ Epictetus
“If you want to conquer the anxiety of life, live in the moment, live in the breath.” ~ Amit Ray
from the Desk of MarDrag:
Lately, we have been having many conversations about anxiety….the levels it can get to, the stress it causes, and the ramifications it can have on our lives. Anxiety keeps us from living our authentic lives, our true lives that we are meant to live, were put here to live. Each of our individual threads that weave through this great tapestry we are part of have a special significance. But our anxiety about our threads…..how they weave, where they weave, why, in what direction, are they good enough to complete the landscape of the tapestry, do they add enough beauty to the picture…..and so many more questions and worries…. lead our threads astray. And anxiety frays the fibers of our strands, little by little, until we are hanging by a mere thread.
As one of the quotes above says, anxiety gives us something to do, but it is not “the thing” we are meant to do and it does not move us forward. And as we have discussed before, out of all those things that we worry about, how many actually come true? If we were to make a list, we could likely prove that our worries far outweigh the things that actually happen.
Worry distracts us from our goals. We may start our day with good intentions, but if we allow anxiety to take command of the day, we are sidetracked and sidelined, forced into a place that we truly do not wish to be, but find ourselves helpless to divert from.
So, consider this. Consider taking command of the anxiety. Easier said than done I hear you say. But, look at the idea that anxiety is not an entity outside us that takes us over….it is a thing within us that, if we can muster the courage, we CAN take control of it and show it to it’s place.
So try this. Make a daily goal for when you feel anxiety come on or escalate and threaten to derail you from having the kind of day or accomplishments you desire or intend. Make that goal simple, clear and easy to achieve. A goal such as listening to a particular song when the anxiety approaches. Or doing an exercise. Or cooking a particular item. Perhaps drawing or writing if you are creative. Or read a certain passage of a book that calms you. Make it the same easily attainable goal that you use every day. Consistency is important…and it will create a safe and comfortable cushion for you to divert to should you have an issue with anxiety. You will know that you have a firm focus to rely on, and when you focus on something other than worry….you transcend that worry and move on to other thoughts that are more enjoyable. Use breath to help you steady, drawing long deep breaths into your body as you pull your power around you and get grounded.
The idea is for YOU to choose a Focus that takes your attention away from the anxiety (rather than the anxiety choosing the focus)….and this gives you power, which also takes any power away from those anxious feelings. Even if it doesn’t seem to work at first or takes effort, keep doing it. Your mind, and your Wiser Self, will begin to see the change in pattern and follow suit. And soon, you will find you will be back in command of your thoughts, and your life.
Everyone deserves quality of life. Choose that, rather than anxiety and see what comes to you in the space that opens up when it is not filled with worry.