Making Our Truth

 

“The pure and simple truth is rarely pure and never simple.”  ~ Oscar Wilde

“If you do not tell the truth about yourself you cannot tell it about other people.”  ~ Virginia Woolf

“The truth will set you free. But not until it is finished with you.”  ~ David Foster Wallace

*** “It is good to feel lost… because it proves you have a navigational sense of where “Home” is.  You know that a place that feels like being found exists.  And maybe your current location isn’t that place but, Hallelujah, that unsettled, uneasy feeling of lost-ness just brought you closer to it.”  ~ Erika Harris

“It is only when we silence the blaring sounds of our daily existence that we can finally hear the whispers of truth that life reveals to us, as it stands knocking on the doorsteps of our hearts.”  ~ K.T. Jong

“Man stands in his own shadow and wonders why it’s dark.” ~ Zen Proverb

“Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. ~ Anaïs Nin
”There are… things which a man is afraid to tell even to himself, and every decent man has a number of such things stored away in his mind.” ~ Fyodor Dostoyevsky

*** “Knowing who you are is the best defense against who they think you are.”  ~ Dodinsky

from the Desk of MarDrag:

Truth….this is a heady word. We are faced with its interpretations every day in many ways. And there are, realistically, many different types of Truth. There is my truth, your truth, the collective truth, the middle ground truth, THE truth, and so on….and they all of them mean something significant to each individual. Just as those threads that are our lives weave and wind through the Great Tapestry, so too do the Truths that drive them and impact what direction they will lace and intertwine.

Most of us question ourselves, and others and situations, about the Truth all the time, wanting and needing its True version so that we can make the best choices and decisions that we can. And we wonder should we tell the Truth, when it comes to certain circumstances that might be better handled with a slightly wavy version of the Truth. And those exist.

I believe that there is no fast and concrete answer to some of these questions….and each thread has to weigh their moral fiber when answering them for themselves….but there are two specific cases where I believe the absolute Truth is important to be told. The first…is to oneself. No matter what actual actions we take or what words we share in reality, we must tell ourselves the Truth about what and why we do what we do and think what we think. As one of the quotes says above, if we cannot tell the truth to/about ourselves, we cannot tell it to/about others as well. And, if we tell ourselves the Truth in absolute, no matter how difficult or scary it is, it stands to reason that we ultimately will make the best choices from that Truth than we ever could have from untruths, immobility or denial.

The other instance in which the Truth is important to be told…..is in our inner Reactions to the negative things others say to us. Words hold great power, and we can be impacted by what others say to us. Good or bad, we will always have a Reaction. And, if we give over our power to those words….or give those words from others too much power over us, then we make what they say our own Truth, even if it is, ultimately, not our True Truth. It is anothers’ Truth that does not belong to us. So, we must give our reaction more power than the words that come from someone else, and be True to ourselves in that reaction, even if it is quietly within ourselves. Turn the Reaction into something positive. To make anothers’ words our Truth is to lose a bit and part of who we truly are, and that can chip away at us until we no longer know who we really are. And our thread in the tapestry can fray and leave us feeling as not a whole person.

So, no matter what situation you are in, what circumstances you must deal with, or what words you must, for whatever reason, listen to with your ears…do not listen to it with your Truth or make it your own, if it does not speak to your honest Truth that you feel about yourself. Be True to You and know in doing so, your thread will become stronger, tougher and more resilient and will be better able to find its True path through the weave of the Great Tapestry. And that always leads to a better place in the picture.

Truth always leads us in the right direction, if not the easiest one, it is the right one.

Blessings!

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Wednesday ~ “Getting Over The Hump Day’ Humor

Today’s Humor Blog is brought to you by “The Question Why”. I hope you find a few chuckles here to carry you through the day. Wishing you a swift and easy Wednesday! Blessings!

EVER WONDER….

* Why do drugstores make the sick walk all the way to the back of the store to get their prescriptions while healthy people can buy cigarettes at the front.
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Why do people order double cheeseburgers, large fries, and a diet coke.
* Why do banks leave vault doors open and then chain the pens to the counters.
* Why do we leave cars worth thousands of dollars in the driveway and put our useless junk in the garage.
* Why do we buy hot dogs in packages of ten and buns in packages of eight.
* Why do they have drive-up ATM machines with Braille lettering.
* Why does the sun lighten our hair, but darken our skin?
* Why can’t women put on mascara with their mouth closed?
* Why don’t you ever see the headline ‘Psychic Wins Lottery’?
* Why is ‘abbreviated’ such a long word?
* Why is it that doctors call what they do ‘practice’?
* Why is the man who invests all your money called a broker?
* Why is the time of day with the slowest traffic called rush hour?
* Why isn’t there mouse-flavored cat food?
* You know that indestructible black box that is used on airplanes? Why don’t they make the whole plane out of that stuff?
* Why don’t sheep shrink when it rains?
* Why are they called apartments when they are all stuck together?
* If flying is so safe, why do they call the airport the terminal?

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Tuesday Affirmations

 

I woke after a restless sleep last night and decided to pull an affirmation card this morning from my “Gifts of Affirmations” deck by Amy Zerner & Monte Farber. Two stuck to my hand today, as sometimes happens, so I will share both of them with you:

1. The Affirmation of Courage: “I experience my emotions and channel them into useful action.”

Use this gift when passions flare or strong feelings threaten to overwhelm logic and practicality. Experience emotions honestly as they arise; do not suppress them. Negative emotions will subside over time in the light of reason and compassion for yourself and others. What you are passionate about can show you ways to change your life.

2. The Affirmation of Transformation: “I take my time to rest, relax and rejuvenate.”

Use this gift when you are hurried, overworked, or cannot take time for yourself. No matter what your situation, you will handle any challenge better if you are well rested, fit, healthy, and take time to do the job correctly. Do not let exhaustion and self-reliance turn into an accident, injury, or sickness. Enjoy life more.

from the Desk of MarDrag:

In the first affirmation, it talks about passions and emotions flaring and overriding logic and practicality. And isn’t that what stress and anxiety do to us? Our conscious mind can know that,

logically, the anxiety we feel is likely unnecessary, but emotions are not logical and it is sometimes difficult to put them in perspective. There is a saying I recall from my studies…..that the only way to overcome a strong emotion…is through it. If we try to go around it, over it, avoid it or ignore it, those usually do not work, especially if you are one who feels emotions strongly. So, we use up all our energy trying to “get away” from the emotion. I learned, and believe, that the best way to handle a strong emotion, is to go through it. It is there for a reason, and acknowledging it gives it what it is looking for, attention, so then it is able to release. Like pulling the stopper out of a bottle.

So, if you are in the grip of a strong emotion, don’t suppress it, feel it and distinguish what it is trying to tell you. Once you acknowledge it, which is all it wants, take deep cleansing breaths and release it, and then use your focus activity to redirect your attention to a positive place. Much like a child throwing a tantrum. If you ignore them, they just cry louder. If you acknowledge their distress, then redirect their attention, the crisis moment can move on into a better place.

In the second affirmation, it talks about the importance of taking time for yourself to relax, unwind and rejuvenate. I believe this is imperative in order to be able to handle our busy and stressful lives in the best way possible. After all, if we do not take care of ourselves, we cannot be there in optimum form for those we need to be there for. And the absolute first person in that line…is ourselves.

So…even if it is just for 15 minutes a day……be sure to take those moments to get to a quiet place, even if you have to lock yourself in the bathroom (LOL), and just stop. Everything. Your momentum, your thoughts, your worries, and physically. Just sit and breathe. Focus on your breath, taking it in and pushing it past your chest and into your belly. Push your belly out with the breath, hold it for a moment, then release it. These are called “Core Breaths” and go much deeper than normal (deep) breaths. They are cleansing, and if you put your focus on them, doing as many as you can in a row, it brings your attention away from everything else and onto yourself. And it has a cleansing effect. After 15 minutes of “power rest”, you will feel a bit better….but the more you do it, the more profound the rest will be. (Much like a power nap, which you can take as well if your circumstances allow).

Of course, the best thing to do is create time for things like reading, or a long hot bath, or sleep….whatever works for you to rejuvenate…..but I have seen some of you comment here that you have no time at all for yourselves, or have trouble relaxing…..so try this breathing technique. And allow yourself to make yourself give yourself 15 minutes a day to do it. You and the quality of life are worth so much more, but definitely at least 15 minutes….and all the pressures and people around you will survive without you for those few minutes. Make it happen…your life is worth it!

Blessings!

Managing Anxiety

 

“Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom.”  ~ Soren Kierkegaard

“Worrying is carrying tomorrow’s load with today’s strength- carrying two days at once. It is moving into tomorrow ahead of time. Worrying doesn’t empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.” ~ Corrie ten Boom

“Each moment of worry, anxiety or stress represents lack of faith in miracles, for they never cease.”  ~ T. F. Hodge

“Anxiety’s like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you very far.”  ~ Jodi Picoult

“Man is not worried by real problems so much as by his imagined anxieties about real problems.”  ~ Epictetus

“If you want to conquer the anxiety of life, live in the moment, live in the breath.”  ~ Amit Ray

from the Desk of MarDrag:

Lately, we have been having many conversations about anxiety….the levels it can get to, the stress it causes, and the ramifications it can have on our lives. Anxiety keeps us from living our authentic lives, our true lives that we are meant to live, were put here to live. Each of our individual threads that weave through this great tapestry we are part of have a special significance. But our anxiety about our threads…..how they weave, where they weave, why, in what direction, are they good enough to complete the landscape of the tapestry, do they add enough beauty to the picture…..and so many more questions and worries…. lead our threads astray. And anxiety frays the fibers of our strands, little by little, until we are hanging by a mere thread.

As one of the quotes above says, anxiety gives us something to do, but it is not “the thing” we are meant to do and it does not move us forward. And as we have discussed before, out of all those things that we worry about, how many actually come true?  If we were to make a list, we could likely prove that our worries far outweigh the things that actually happen.

Worry distracts us from our goals. We may start our day with good intentions, but if we allow anxiety to take command of the day, we are sidetracked and sidelined, forced into a place that we truly do not wish to be, but find ourselves helpless to divert from.

So, consider this. Consider taking command of the anxiety. Easier said than done I hear you say. But, look at the idea that anxiety is not an entity outside us that takes us over….it is a thing within us that, if we can muster the courage, we CAN take control of it and show it to it’s place.

So try this. Make a daily goal for when you feel anxiety come on or escalate and threaten to derail you from having the kind of day or accomplishments you desire or intend. Make that goal simple, clear and easy to achieve. A goal such as listening to a particular song when the anxiety approaches. Or doing an exercise. Or cooking a particular item. Perhaps drawing or writing if you are creative. Or read a certain passage of a book that calms you.  Make it the same easily attainable goal that you use every day. Consistency is important…and it will create a safe and comfortable cushion for you to divert to should you have an issue with anxiety. You will know that you have a firm focus to rely on, and when you focus on something other than worry….you transcend that worry and move on to other thoughts that are more enjoyable. Use breath to help you steady, drawing long deep breaths into your body as you pull your power around you and get grounded.

The idea is for YOU to choose a Focus that takes your attention away from the anxiety (rather than the anxiety choosing the focus)….and this gives you power, which also takes any power away from those anxious feelings. Even if it doesn’t seem to work at first or takes effort, keep doing it. Your mind, and your Wiser Self, will begin to see the change in pattern and follow suit. And soon, you will find you will be back in command of your thoughts, and your life.

Everyone deserves quality of life. Choose that, rather than anxiety and see what comes to you in the space that opens up when it is not filled with worry.

Blessings!

Sunday Inspiration

Good Sunday Morning! I am posting a bit of inspiration for a weekend day today. These are some quotes I had nestled in some papers, and a story that was submitted to me by one of our esteemed fellow bloggers, Empress. It is a wonderful story with a profound message.

I hope you enjoy these….and have a wonderful Sunday!

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We have been talking about our thoughts, how to better become aware of how they impact our actions and the quality of our daily lives. This quote says it beautifully. Capture the image……

“Your silent thoughts are like the roots of a plant. They remain hidden in the dark recesses of the earth, but from them stems the whole plant – it’s life and form, it’s strength and beauty. From them and through them, the plant lives and dies. So, too, your thoughts, although hidden, are your real, vital force.” Lawrence G. Lovasik, The Hidden Power of Kindness

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And, with the recent post “Is The Jar Half Full?”, it was very timely that Empress sent this story to be posted. It takes the concept even further, and I love what it says……

A young lady confidently walked around the room while leading and explaining stress management to an audience, with a raised glass of water, and everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, “half empty or half full?”. But, she fooled them all. “How heavy is this glass of water?”, she inquired with a smile. Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz. She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance”.

“In each case it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes” she continued, “and that’s the way it is with stress. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on. As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden – holding stress longer and better each time practiced”.

“So, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night…. pick them up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you’re carrying now, put them down for a moment. Relax, and pick them up later after you’ve rested. Life is short. Enjoy it and the stress that you’ve conquered!”

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Now, a few more words of wisdom…..

* Accept the fact that some days you’re the pigeon, and some days you’re the statue!
* Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.
* We could learn a lot from crayons. Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.
* A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

Blessings!

Do You Believe In Magic?

 

“And above all, watch with glittering eyes the whole world around you because the greatest secrets are always hidden in the most unlikely places. Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it.”  ~ Ronald Dahl

“The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper.”  ~ W.B. Yeats

“Hope can be a powerful force. Maybe there’s no actual magic in it, but when you know what you hope for most and hold it like a light within you, you can make things happen, almost like magic.”  ~ Laini Taylor

“The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease for ever to be able to do it.” ~ J.M. Barrie

“Magic exists. Who can doubt it, when there are rainbows and wildflowers, the music of the wind and the silence of the stars? Anyone who has loved has been touched by magic. It is such a simple and such an extraordinary part of the lives we live.”  ~ Nora Roberts

“Magic is believing in yourself, if you can do that, you can make anything happen.” ~ Goethe

“That’s the thing about magic; you’ve got to know it’s still here, all around us, or it just stays invisible for you.”  ~ Charles de Lint

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from the Desk of MarDrag:

Do you believe in Magic? Do you believe there is energy around us, pulsing and moving and creating? Do you believe in the magic of Belief? Or the Magic of Love….or the Magic of the Heart and the Mind?

I think, that in this chaotic and sometimes distressing world, we can lose sight of the Magic that exists, that Magic we believed in and saw in the world around us, as a child. That Magic that we created our dreams with. A child sees with unclouded eyes, with innocence that what it sees is undoubtedly true and real. As we grow and experience more of the world, and its harshness, we lose so much of that innocence and ability to believe that there IS Magic all around us and that we can have it in our lives. Perhaps just to brighten it a little bit, by looking at the Magic of Nature. Or listen to the Magic of Music. Or feel the Magic of falling in love.

But, there is also the Magic of Will, of Belief, of the Heart and of the Glowing Light within us that helps us create the life that we so desire. Or Will a solution to a problem to manifest. Or have the conviction that something we desire will come to us. Or even just the Magic of a Smile, to lighten someone’s day.

Today, if even just for a moment, look around you and see if you can spot a bit of Magic and focus on that, draw it to you, feel the tingle of that something that is outside all practical thought. Just for a bit, open that part of yourself that dares to see past the severity of life to the enchantment and charm of possibilities when you tap into the Magic of Life. It is there.

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Magic is everywhere…….don’t forget to look. And when you look….Believe in what you see. And when you Believe….amazing things will happen.

Blessings!

Is The Glass Half Empty or Half Full?

 

I was going through a mountain of papers from my years of studying and I came across a few nuggets of wisdom jammed between lessons and homework. This one struck me because we have been touching on similar subjects lately on the blog, so I thought to share it with you. (I do not have a name for a credit. It was emailed to me over 10 yrs ago). It is titled:

To All The Rocks In Your Life –

A philosophy professor stood before his class and had some items in front of him. When class began, he wordlessly picked up a large empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks, about 2” in diameter. He then asked his students if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured those into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The students laughed nervously though.

The professor then picked up a bag of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled in all the spaces between the rocks and pebbles, and filled up the jar.

“Now”, the professor said, “I want you to recognize, the jar is your life. The rocks are the important things – your family, your spouse/partner, your health, your children – anything that is so important to you that if it were lost, you would be nearly destroyed. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, your car. But the sand – is everything else – the small stuff.

If you put the sand in the jar first, there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your energy and time on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take the time to get medical check ups. Take your spouse out dancing.

There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party or fix the disposal. So take care of the rocks first – the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

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from the Desk of MarDrag:

I love this illustration….the visual is profound. There is not much to add about what it says, as I think it speaks for itself.

But I will add these thoughts….that we spend so much time, effort and energy on worrying or stressing or obsessing about the “small stuff” (the sand) in our lives, unwittingly and sometimes unconsciously, that it drains us and leaves us without brain power or soul power and in a constant state of fatigue. And we are then left with little energy to give our attention to the important things, the rocks in our lives.

Consider swaying your thoughts and energy toward giving those rocks a better fit in the jar of your life, give it a jiggle so the pebbles have some room too….and let the sand just fall all around them to the bottom of the jar. Give priority of thought and energy to the bigger, more important things in life, and don’t sweat the small stuff. It is not worth it just filling your jar up with sand. And, that is no quality of life.

Since you are the most important rock in your jar, start by giving yourself more focus and energy. You deserve it!

Blessings!

Wednesday ~ “Getting Over The Hump Day” Humor

Happy Wednesday! Today’s humor blog is brought to you this week by “the male side of things”. These are the man rules, as set down by a guy whose name I do not know to give credit to.  So let’s give them a temporary break and allow them their moment. But only one!  🙂 Have a good laugh! Oh, and some pictures too.

Have a great Wednesday! Blessings!

The Guys’ Rules

We always hear ” the rules” from the female side. Now here are the rules from the male side. These are our rules! Please note.. these are all numbered “1” ON PURPOSE!
1. Men are NOT mind readers.
1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You’re a big girl. If it’s up, put it down. We need it up, you need it down. You don’t hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
1. Sunday sports. It’s like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
1. Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of it that way.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just say it!

1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That’s what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a Problem. See a doctor.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 Days.
1. If you think you’re fat, you probably are. Don’t ask us.
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.

1. You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done. Not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
1. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say “nothing,” We will act like nothing’s wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
1. If you ask a question you don’t want an answer to, expect an answer you don’t want to hear.
1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine. Really.
1. Don’t ask us what we’re thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as baseball, the shotgun formation, or golf.
1. You have enough clothes.
1. You have too many shoes.
1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape!
1. Thank you for reading this.
***Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight; But did you know men really don’t mind that? It’s like camping.

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A Toxic Life

 

(I’m back with full capabilities….so let’s get going again!)

“Have courage for the great sorrows of life and patience for the small ones; and when you have laboriously accomplished your daily task, go to sleep in peace.” ~ Victor Hugo

“In each family, a story is playing itself out, and each family’s story embodies its hope and despair.”  ~ August Napier

 “Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple.” ~ Dr. Suess

“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

from the Desk of MarDrag: (this is a bit of a long one!)

A few of you wonderful people who post here had a conversation the other day about a topic I promised to cover in a blog. The topic was about toxic situations, friends and family in our lives and how to deal with it all. Here is that blog:

Starting with the Definition from my trusty, dusty Oxford American Dictionary that still sits in an exalted place on my desk, it tells us:

TOXIC: “of or caused by poison; containing or being poisonous causing debilitation; extremely harsh, malicious and harmful”

With regard to Relationships: “harmful to our well-being; damages self-esteem and drains energy”

So, from those definitions, we can glean that toxins can come in many forms that affect us physically, mentally, emotionally, and in thought forms, and all of those can poison and eat away at our souls. Now, we are all relatively conscious of what we put in our bodies and try to keep them healthy physically and working at optimum levels. Even if we eat or drink things that are not always good for us (or smoke), we are aware enough to take reasonable care of ourselves. At the very least, we know what we are doing and are complicit to a degree. We would not, however, consciously drink poison that we know would damage or end our lives as we know them.

But, what about the toxic thoughts, feelings, and people we allow in our lives, minds, hearts and souls? What if we began to open our awareness to those toxins that we allow within us on those levels every day, and take action to release them? So that we can thrive in health and well-being as a whole person.

So many of us have difficulties in our lives with situations, complications, family members or friends, even spouses and children, that elicit some level of toxicity for us….some levels higher than others. And, we are conditioned as we grow up by so many factors – from family and from peers such as teachers, etc., to put obligation and fulfillment of others expectations above our own truth, comfort and well-being. So, we convince ourselves we have to handle it all. We create a “toxic comfort zone” so we can numb ourselves to it in order to maintain the daily activities and thoughts that are required of us. Then, we get comfortable in that toxic comfort zone because, at least there, we know what to expect and what we have to deal with and consider. Outside that zone is the unknown….and our ego will always tell us it is worse rather than better, because the ego thinks it is smarter and it does not want change. The Wiser Voice, who is far more astute, will tell us the truth….that it is infinitely better and we will thrive outside that toxic comfort zone. The difficulty lies in listening to that voice, and taking action.

In our adult life, we might discover this toxicity is the cause of our anxiety and unhappiness, and quest to get past it and retrieve what we have lost of our own lives. We are rarely told to put ourselves first….but that IS the first thing we should do.

Not that we should not consider others, but it is our life to live, and we should consider our lives first because if we are not mentally, physically and soully ok…then how can we be there for anyone else, including ourselves?

Actively think of and choose healthy thoughts vs. toxic thoughts. Keep focus on “positive activity” instead of sinking into toxic places that we do not feel we can get out of. Tell that ego voice you will not listen to its negative rhetoric. This also retrains the mind to look for better ways to think and operate. Start feeding the mind, heart and soul with healthy and nurturing thoughts and create that kind of relationship with yourself. It will affect your other relationships in a positive way, just by cause and effect.

Relationships should nurture us, fulfill us, raise our self-esteem, make us feel good, and be a source we can derive energy from. They should not drain us of our essence, energy and well-being. So if there is a toxic relationship in your life, allow yourself to disengage your emotions and thoughts from theirs (even if you can’t/do not want to disengage physically)……listen to the voice that tells you that you do NOT have to take on their issues, they are not yours and belong to someone else…..and clear those issues from your space. Take command of your space and declare that only positive well-being will reside there. This will make it easier for you to deal with the issues at hand with a clearer, calmer head & heart.

(Where family is concerned…there are 5 personality roles that we and our family members fit into. Knowing what role you, and those in your family hold can help you to understand what adjustments in your thought processes to make in order to deal with them better. But, for the sake of not making this blog longer than it already is, I would have to write about those separately…..if you are interested, let me know in comments.)

So, as you would do a cleanse to release toxins from your body to make it feel better, so too you can do a cleanse of your thoughts, emotions and lives of the toxins that impair your mental health and well-being. It IS ok, even necessary, to release and replenish.

(I do have some very easy yet powerful processes that can help you with this subject. They are not things that I can write about here though. If you are interested in learning more, I do work with people, by phone and in person, to assist with the processes. If you would like to know more about that, feel free to email me at the address on the contact page and we can discuss. I am always happy to help! And, they really DO help! I am also fiercely private and discreet.)

Blessings!

Monday, Monday

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Good Morning!

I am happy to be back, though I am still without my daily device. I have commandeered DD’s laptop as I patiently wait for my desktop to be fixed. Cross fingers for today!

But I wanted to post a Monday post for you, just to get your week started. A bit of message with a bit of fun. I will have a regular blog up tomorrow, and its a good one. Thanks for hanging in there with me. And have a Blessed Monday.

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To share a message I need to remember today…….

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Something else  to remember……..

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And a chuckle for the day….c’mon……do it!……

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Finally……..something to take with you through the day. Make it a great one!

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See you tomorrow! Blessings!