A Life Story


“It’s like everyone tells a story about themselves inside their own head. Always. All the time. That story makes you what you are. We build ourselves out of that story.”  ~ Patrick Rothfuss

“It’s not what you say out of your mouth that determines your life, it’s what you whisper to yourself that has the most power!”  ~ Robert Kiyosaki

“Think and then think what you have thought. Is it really what you had thought. Think again.”  ~ Amit Abraham

“Human beings are not born once and for all on the day their mothers give birth to them, but … life obliges them over and over again to give birth to themselves.”  ~ Gabriel Garcia Marquez

“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.”  ~ Mark Twain

“Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.”  ~ Iyanla Vanzant

“The best revenge is bettering yourself.”  ~ Zacky V.

“The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.”  ~ Michel de Montaigne

“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.”  ~ Norman Vincent Peale

“Dare to love yourself as if you were a rainbow with gold at both ends.”  ~ Aberjhani

from The Desk of MarDrag:

We all have a story. It is the story written on the back binding of our tapestries, pages illustrating the meaning of the scenes that are woven into the embroidery. That is our true story, whose words are written by us, our experiences, our inner voices, the other voices around us in our lives, and the very threads that weave the scenes that are described.


But, we also have “other” stories. These are the stories that spring from our insecurities, our foibles, our needs, and our desire to aspire to be a better “we”. Some stories come from far away in our past and leave us shaken and feeling inadequate. Some stories come from believing what others say to us, when we know it is not the truth, but we listen anyway and write that story to be our truth. Some stories come from the critical eye we view ourselves with every day in the mirror that casts a sheen in the looking glass so we only see the faults and not the beauty. And some stories come from deep within those thoughts that we allow to run amid the fields of our minds that we will never be as good as we want to be, or as everyone expects us to be.

“Think and then think what you have thought. Is it really what you had thought. Think again.”  ~ Amit Abraham

I love this quote. It suggests a picture in my mind of myself, with a far off look in my eye, (of course, I am standing in a green field, the wind rustling through my hair, all very romantic!) thinking about what I am thinking. And asking myself….is it MY truth. Because, whatever I am thinking, whatever story I am writing at that very moment….and whispering to myself….is what I will believe, and then create.

So I have to ask myself….is this My True Story. Is this part of the pages that are stamped to the back of my tapestry……or have I written some pages that are taken from places in my mind or voices that I hear that I had no cause to listen to. As another quote says above, we are called in life to “give birth” to ourselves over and over as we navigate through that life and its experiences. And with each birth, comes another story.

So, we must make sure we are writing the story of our life in our own truth, from that honest, wiser voice within that tells us who we really are…and not what others, or our insecurities about who we are, would tell us. That takes reflection, and wiping away the haze in front of the mirror….and NOT being afraid of who we will see there……because that person is the story we are writing right now.

And….we have the Power at any given moment to say, this is not how I want this story written, and do a rewrite, or scrap the pages altogether and start over…….a rebirth. Critique the work, but don’t be a critic. And believe in the power of words, your words, for they are your thoughts, which turn into you.

Now, write the greatest story you have ever told!

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26 comments on “A Life Story

  1. Hmmmmm. The back binding of my tapestry looks like a kaleidoscopic mess!
    j/k….kinda 😉

    Seriously though – Very Nice post MarDrag! I’ll have to think on this one a bit later.

    • Sweetie….I understand you saying that. I read a bit of your blog and man have you been through it. And, are still handling alot!! So, I imagine your pages are in disarray.

      But, try to write the story that gets them sorted out. Even if it is a fairy tale for now, it will get the story started to work from later.

      And, I am a quintessential organizer. If you ever need any help getting those pages together, my email is up top and I am here to help! So many hugs to you! 🙂

      • O.M.G. SHOOT ME!!! I just wrote this big long ass post (which to me is a CHORE), got up to turn the heat off, came back to the ‘puter and it’s GONE.

      • “But, try to write the story that gets them sorted out. Even if it is a fairy tale for now, it will get the story started to work from later.”

        But how do you do that if you don’t know where you want to/should go or what your purpose is? That’s *my* issue.

      • Ugggh! I am so sorry about your post! Don’t you just love WordPress sometimes? I have a very indelicate word I use for it at times when it chooses to exert a mind of it’s own! 😉

        As to your other question, about how you start writing your story when you don’t know what you want or what your purpose is: Start with reflecting on where you are at now and ask yourself, if you weren’t there right now, where would you most WANT to be, what would you most WANT to be doing. And, when you answer yourself…..think deeply about it and be completely truthful with yourself. No matter what the answer may be, listen to it, and ask if that really is your truth.

        Then, start writing a mindful story about it. (With any good writer, the story unfolds as it is written). I know you have obligations right now that prevent you from acting out any story right now, other than the one you are living. But, one day, you will have your life back to be your own, and your own story will get to unfold.

        That is why I mentioned “even if it is a fairytale” for now…..it will give you something to look forward to and to bring your dreams back into your life. That will help you get through the difficult days you spend right now.

        Make the story “your purpose” for now….and as it is written, your true purpose will unfold and become clear to you.

        How does that sound to you?

      • Well see…what I WANT the most and what would make me happiest is to be home in my cabin in the woods and spend my days working on my house, my yard, my herbs and garden. Spending my free time hiking the woods and generally enjoying my lil hermit lifestyle.

        OTOH – I don’t feel that’s a very worthwhile or purposeful existence (in the big scheme of things). I also don’t think it’d be very good in the long term to be so isolated.

      • I get it! But, that is just your starting point. That, your saying, is what you truly want. GOOD, you are being honest with yourself. BUT, you also went even further and said you realize that might, in the long term, not be the best for you.

        So, keep writing the story. In your imagination…what MIGHT come next?

      • In my vision, I just keep on into my old age until one day Mike comes along and takes my hand and leads me to the other side.

      • Oh (((((JustDee)))))! My heart breaks for you!

        But, would Mike want you only to exist for the rest of your life until you cross over to him? Or….would he want you to find some happiness or give your life purpose FOR YOURSELF until that time comes.

        I understand why you feel this way….and some of it has to do with your current ongoing situation, and what you face everyday……but there is still purpose to your life that does not have to do with caring for others. It’s ok that you don’t know what that is yet.

        Perhaps start thinking about yourself in the sense of who you are as just yourself….not yourself connected to Mike, your mom, or anyone else. If there was JUST YOU (JustDee!), who would that be?

        There is no rush….just start to think about that concept. Look at directing your “vision” onto yourself and see what comes up. And the story begins…..

      • “If there was JUST YOU (JustDee!), who would that be?”

        That would be the little old lady tending her home and gardens 😉
        I really did mean that’s what would make me happy. I’m not just “biding time” till I’m reunited with Mike. (Though I do count on that – being reunited). I know he would want me to be happy. In the meantime I feel like my life should have a purpose, I just don’t know what it IS. Sigh. Maybe all this living in limbo is getting to me, lol.

        Mom is up from her nap and it’s time for me to start dinner and walk Tux. Thanks for the caring conversation and food for thought.

        Hugs to you dear MarDrag!

      • I can sure understand how living in limbo can be getting to you. And I know you want to find “your” purpose for your life. Perhaps, go back and read the “Life’s A Purpose” post. Let me know what you think after you read it.

        In the meantime, your life does have a purpose right now, and a very important one. Try to see value in that….and value in your fulfilling that purpose. You are doing something very worthwhile and important. Even if it does not always look that way…or it does not look like it is appreciated. Beyond your {world} that you can see right now, other things are happening, and you are contributing to it. And…making a very comfortable place for your mom to make a safe landing. THAT is priceless!

        have a good dinner, give Tux a hug for me…and keep a bunch for yourself!! ❤

      • I went back and read it. Thanks! I feel much better now! (Where is my mind? How did I forget that post?!? LOL) I so appreciate your kindness and support!

      • Oh great! I am glad you read it and it helped. Don’t worry about forgetting…you have alot on your mind. And you have me to help you remember!

        I am so happy to support you. Love and Hugs!!

  2. Okay. Deep Breath. Trying again. 😆

    Part 1
    Thanks for the offer of email but I’ve lost some of my best cyber buddies over my Mental Aversion to Writing. If I can’t answer something in a few sentences, I put it aside for “later”. Then “later” turns into MONTHS, the email turns irrelevant, and I delete. I try to do better but…..sigh. (I recently reconnected with an old friend from 30 years ago via facebook, we chatted a bit on fb and switched over to email….still sitting in my inbox – dated 10/13!)

  3. good morning! great blog again 🙂
    i also like the comments and advice to them. there is always opportunity to learn here, and I love that. thank you for creating this place 🙂

    i do feel i have change my story countless times, but not before getting so cut up on a current one that feels will never end, feeling lost, feeling trapped. until something would happen to finally realizing, the i have the power to change it. when i first noticed and did it the very first time, i was surprised that I could do it. i had to go through obstacles, but was able to change that bad story i was in, a story written by some body else. A story i was to young to write myself and others were writing for me. of corse after that i have written stories of my own that were not that great either, get cut up in them feeling trap again, not knowing how to change it or even thinking i could change them. but again once something happens to make me “wake up” to realize i am in a story i don’t like, i have a hard time taking action. something i am working on…by trying not to write anything right now. taking my time, to figure out what is the next story.

  4. Hiiiiii 😀
    OT – MarDrag, my RL friend Roxann is also an aspiring to be published writer. She has a blog where writers converge, give tips to each other, do exercises, talk about how to get published, etc. I think you’d love it. I also think you’d love HER, some of the things I just saw on her blog were eerily similar to what you write about! She writes fiction though but IRL she’s on your plane 😉

    Her pen name is Madison Woods and the blog is –
    Tell her Dena sent you and you’ll get a good seat!
    (She’ll also say “How IS Dena!?! I haven’t talked to her in forever!)

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