“The best reason for having dreams is that in dreams no reasons are necessary.” ~ Ashleigh B.
I was talking to a friend the other day who has had some difficult things happening in her life lately. Of course, it is causing her stress and she is having a difficult time acknowledging all the positive things she has going on and the good people she has around her. One of the things she keeps saying is….why is this happening to me? What is the reason? I need an answer. And she wonders if everything does, indeed, happen for a reason….what is the reason for these unfortunate things that have come about.
Now, some people believe everything happens for a reason and there is a greater purpose to it and an eventual answer as to its presence while some people do not think this is true and that everything that happens is random and is “just what it is”. I will share that I actually straddle BOTH these distinctions. Why does it need be only either one? I attest that they are both true.
Many things happen in our lives on a daily basis. But, we don’t question all of them….only the ones that we have issues or trials with. Do we ever question the reason for good things happening to us? Do we ever say wow, that is amazing, I wonder why that happened to me? Or is it always, this terrible thing happened, why me? Why do you think we only question the adverse or difficult things that happen, but never the positive?
You see, I think that, as we move through our days, regular things happen that we do not question. They are what they are, random occurrences if you will, and we accept them, deal with them, and move on. But, when we are hit with something that has a special meaning to us, that turns our lives upside down, or that impacts us greatly……then it is connecting to a specific part of us that wakes up and says…oh, why is this happening? We then strive to look for its meaning and, at this point, I do subscribe to the idea that, if we think it has some meaning, then it does. And we should seek that meaning and work it out. It was sent from our Wiser Self to find us.
But, I also think, what if we give whatever happens a reason….give it a purpose, and weave it into our life tapestries as part of the make up of our landscape. See it as one of the threads that makes our pictures what they are. And that is the reason it is happening. Then reason, like purpose (from the Life’s A Purpose post) is in the journey, not a destination. We don’t need to reach or know the reason if THE reason is in its very presence. The fact that whatever is happening is in our lives at all is a reason to give the thing purpose and let it make its mark, allow it in all the way, accept it fully….and move on from there. We cannot avoid it. It is going to be there anyway……so WE give it reason. In doing that, we not only take our power back from the situation so we can find the balance point with it (and a solution or outcome), but we empower ourselves to overcome it…because we take control of our lives rather than letting the circumstance take control of us.
And within that, there is Reason.