“Know that what you call life is a succession of assorted moments all strung together in a wonderful, random series of energy events determined by the elegance of your conscious choices within each present moment. The next moment of experience is created through your conscious choices within this moment. Know that this moment you are creating your next best possible experience in an endless range of possibilities, of consequences, of circumstances, of relationships, of experiences and energy events.
Appreciate these moments and grow that appreciation. Confront these moments in peace and love and release all tension and opposition, relaxing into the moment, knowing all is well. Fully experience the current moment. Intend to experience the highest and best possibility of each moment as a self-fulfilling creation of the next best possible moment. Let that be your experience as often as you can. Be aware. Create your moments one by one. See how great, how elegant you can be, and experience what happens.” ~ Reverend Joy Dial
from the Desk of MarDrag:
I ran across this passage in a book I look through from time to time for my own inspiration. I had the pleasure of knowing, for a time, the author of the book, Reverend Joy Dial. We had many deep and powerful conversations and I learned a great deal from her.
This passage stood out to me last night because, in this day and age, we are all rushing through life, running through our days full of activities, obligations and, as one of the posters here so eloquently stated yesterday, “dictated by chores, errands, to-do lists, and countless tasks just to get to the end of the day unscathed” (thank you Boobah!). I was moved by the truth of that statement and got to thinking about the breakdown of each moment of our days and how they might be different if we saw a day, or lived it, moment by moment.
We are all in such high gear that we forget that a day IS made up of moments, as the Reverend says, strung together. But we live as if each day is one accumulation of 24 hours that we have to “get through” or manage and we lose our awareness that we are in control of each moment and that each moment is there with the potential for us to enjoy it, or at the very least, acknowledge our accomplishments or those of others. Most of the time, we are berating ourselves for not getting more done, for feeling inadequate, or for not being as good as we feel we can be.
And the moments just slip away, one by one, never to be reclaimed again.
Today….appreciate each moment of your day. Be aware as possible of the gift of each moment and savor it. Know that there are endless possibilities for each moment you spend today and that YOU have the power to choose how it is spent. Experience each moment to the fullest, no matter what you are doing. Create those moment how YOU want them to be, even while tending to obligations and tasks because, even in those moments, we can be “elegant” (as the Rev. says) in how we choose to live them.
Because this moment, right now, is creating your next moment.
I love the moments I spend with you all here, and I love that you spend some of your moments on my blog, and I hope that those moments are enjoyable and fulfilling!
It’s Wednesday humor day….the mid-week gotta have a laugh to get through it post! A few random jokes and some pictures to make you chuckle. Laugh til your hair stands on end…its good for the soul!
Be kind to each other, love yourself and have a great day! Blessings!
(P.S. I am still working on editing pictures on WordPress so sorry for the random position of them! They are still funny though! LOL!)
“They’ve finally come up with the perfect office computer. If it makes a mistake, it blames another computer.” ~ Milton Berle
“Ever wonder why if it’s sent by ship then it’s a cargo, if it’s sent by road then it’s a shipment.” ~ Dave Allen
“Don’t you find it Funny that after Monday(M) and Tuesday(T), the rest of the week says WTF (Wed, Th, Fri)?” ~ Unknown
“Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?” ~ Brigham Young
“Character is like a tree and reputation like a shadow. The shadow is what we think of it, the tree is the real thing.” ~ Abraham Lincoln
“Reputation is what others think of us; character is what God knows of us. When you have spent what feels like eternity trying to repair a few moments of time that destroyed the view others once had of you, then you must ask yourself if you have the problem or is it really them? God doesn’t make us try so hard, only people do.” ~ Shannon L. Alder
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves, regret for the past and fear of the future.” ~ Fulton Oursler
“We are what our thoughts have made us, so take care about what you think. Words are secondary, thoughts live. They travel far.” ~ Swami Vivekananda
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” ~ Wayne W. Dyer
“Be yourself, the world worships the original.” ~ Ingrid Bergman
from the Desk of MarDrag:
This post is going to continue a bit in the vein of the last post, “Love of the Self”. There was a good deal of response and discussion, both here on the blog and in “real life”, and one thing that stood out from those discussions was the concept of giving power to what others think or say about us and how that affects our level of Self-Love.
From the moment we are born, there are voices around us prodding our growth and giving their opinions, teachings, and critiques. Some voices are encouraging and loving, and some are heated and damaging. We learn from those voices……and also the voices that start talking inside our heads. They respond to what we hear around us and tell us how to feel about ourselves. It is a matter of life that, unless we become hermits, we have to learn to handle and deal with. Sometimes we are good at it, and sometimes voices and judgments get through that impact our self-esteem and confidence, and we start believing the things that we hear that tell us we are not good enough. When the voices outside of us (no matter what they say) grow louder than the loving voice within us, we can be hampered by that and spend much of our lives feeling inadequate and unlovable.
I call this “giving our power up to the voices”. We all have personal power and we have the choice of how to use it and what to give it to. By nature, we tend to give our power up to those words, people, and ideas around us that speak the loudest or touch us in some way. If that is not an empowering voice, and we believe it, we give our power up to those words and make them our own, whirling them through our minds, hearts and souls…..and we make decisions about ourselves from that process. Before we know it, we have a skewed sense of who we are, and we have lost a great deal of our personal power.
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves, regret for the past and fear of the future.” ~ Fulton Oursler ~ This is such a powerful quote because of its truth. How many of us spend so much time suspended between these two “thieves” which rob us of the beauty, truth and confidence of our present and who we truly are. We spend so much time worrying about the past, and what the future will hold, that we miss the enjoyment of just being ourselves. Which is the best part of us.
But we can reclaim that power, and with it make another decision. We can gather that power back around us, take it back from the words and ideas that fed the concept that we do not deserve our own love (or others), and change the way we look at ourselves. And, as Wayne Dyer’s quote says….when you change how you look at something, that something will change as well.
So, take a moment to see all the threads of power around you that you are giving away to words and ideas that come from other people. Gather those threads and pull them back in around you. Wrap yourself up in those threads and reclaim the power that you have otherwise given away to beliefs that are not your own. Feel your power envelope you in a warm and loving embrace. It has wanted to be there with you all along.
With those threads back around you, now make a firm decision that the only opinion that you should be concerned with is your own. It simply does not matter what others think of you, those thoughts belong to the others and do not belong in your space. Let them go to go back where they belong, just keep the threads of power they were attached to. Bless all those around you, and let them know you love them, but you are going to think on your own now and make up your own mind about who you are. And feel empowered by that!
Feel the freedom and the power that now swirls around you. You can stand within your own space and be who you are and love yourself for it. You deserve it!
P.S. Also consider that….many times we think we know what others think and we are off the mark. So the best thing to do is not spend any time worrying about what others think in the first place!
“When you’re different, sometimes you don’t see the multitude of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn’t.” ~ Jodi Picoult
“Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn’t have the time to sit around and talk about you. What’s important to me is not others’ opinions of me, what’s important to me is my opinion of myself.” ~ C. Joy Bell C.
“To the people who love you, you are beautiful already. This is not because they’re blind to your shortcomings but because they so clearly see your soul. Your shortcomings then dim by comparison. The people who care about you are willing to let you be imperfect and beautiful, too.” ~ Victoria Moran
“How would your life be different if…You stopped allowing other people to dilute or poison your day with their words or opinions? Let today be the day you stand strong in the truth of your beauty and journey through your day without attachment to the validation of others.” ~ Steve Maraboli
“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” ~ Steve Maraboli
“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.” ~ Carl Jung
“I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.” ~ Brene Brown
“Always remember, You are loved, You carry the love, You spread the love, You radiate the love, And the love is returned to you.” ~ Karen Hackel
“Lighten up on yourself. No one is perfect. Gently accept your humanness.” ~ Deborah Day
from the Desk of MarDrag:
Loving oneself, oddly enough, is one of the hardest, yet most courageous things we will ever do. Ask anyone, and they will give you a long list of things or reasons why they are imperfect and not deserving of self-love. They may accept that someone else may love them, but when it comes to accepting ourselves for who we are, exactly as we are, in this moment and loving that, we are loathe to do so, and reject the concept.
We are enamored with the idea that our self-worth, our self-love, is dictated by those around us and what they think of us. Are we worthy enough? Are we smart enough? Are we successful enough? Are we pretty enough? Are we charming enough? Are we dedicated enough? Are we giving enough? Are we strong enough? In these questions…..what is the common denominator, the common thread/word? ENOUGH! Are we enough of anything to be loved, accepted and even more so, respected and held in high esteem? We compare ourselves to others and think, no, I am not as good, so therefore, I do not deserve to love myself….until I can become *insert word here*, and then I might be good enough to deserve that self-love. And what if, no matter how hard we try, we never “become” that “thing” we dangle in front of us that measures our worth. Will we withhold love of ourselves forever then?
The thing is….we are not nor will we be “enough” to be loved and held in high esteem unless we….without judgment, without question, and without fear……love and accept ourselves completely for who we are at this very moment in our lives…..faults and foibles and all. We will never be that perfect vision we have of ourselves because we are human and no one human is perfect. And THAT….is what makes us lovable.
Today….embrace all those reasons why you hold self-love at arms length, and wrap them in love. The best way to overcome anything is to love it, not push it away or withhold acceptance until it fits your picture of what it should be. And that includes ourselves. We do not withhold our love from those people or situations in our lives that need us until they are perfect do we? No, we love them in spite of all the imperfections and frustrations. Now, we need to do that for ourselves.
Be brave…..and love yourself no matter what….and watch yourself blossom in the light rays of Self-Love like a flower blossoms in the light of the sun. Be your own sun, and illuminate the beauty of you and bask in the warmth of your love for yourself.
It has been another long tough week, for everyone, for many reasons. I wanted to offer a light Friday post so everyone can just take a deep breath and maybe find a piece of their smile. Animals can help us do that. Pets offer that unconditional love that, no matter what is going on, they will be there with their happy faces, comfort and love. Here are a few adorable pics to end your week with….just in case you don’t have a pet of your own! And if you do, these will make you smile anyway.
Be safe, be kind to each other and try to find a moment of peace amid the chaos. I send you my deepest love and hugs!! Blessings!
I found this list called “7 Lovely Logics” and just love what they say. I do not know who wrote them or put them together, but I wanted to share them with you, as there is great wisdom in each one. There is so much going on in our world right now, so I hope these will bring you some inspiration to face these days to come. (FYI – the numbered statements are by the author, the comments under them are written and added by me.) Blessings!
“7 Lovely Logics”
1. Make peace with your past so it doesn’t spoil your present.
The present is called the present because it is a gift. If we are always focused on the past, we cannot see the blessings of today. The past belongs in the past, make peace with it and let it go. It can only affect our present if we allow it to by bringing it into the now. Actually, the past wants to be left alone. It knows where it belongs.
2. What others think of you is none of your business.
Let people have their opinions, thoughts and judgments about you without needing to control or “fix” them. It simply does not matter. What does matter is what you think of yourself and the integrity with which you view yourself. The rest is not your business to deal with.
3. Time heals almost anything. Give time some time.
We have all heard this one before, but in this time of instant gratification, we expect everything to happen “now” including healing of our hearts and souls. Sometimes, things just take time, and we need to have the patience to allow healing to happen in the time that it needs. That will also allow us to recognize the progress as it happens so we can acknowledge it learn from it. We must not go from A to Z and miss all the steps in between. If we do, we will just have to repeat the lesson/healing until we allow ourselves to see the entire process and learn the lesson it was supposed to teach.
4. No one is the reason for your happiness – except yourself.
No one else can make us happy. They can add to our happiness, but true happiness comes from deep within us and stems from how comfortable we are with our chosen way of life.
5. Don’t compare your life with others, you have no idea what their journey is about.
We are each individuals with our own lives, challenges and roads to walk. Each life is unique, and like no other. We cannot ever truly know what is in anothers heart or soul, nor can they know ours. We never know exactly what someone is going through, just what they show us. So don’t compare your life with anothers…you are unique. Focus on you!
6. Stop thinking too much. It’s alright not to know all the answers.
This is a really good one, because we expect ourselves to be brilliant and know all the answers all the time. The simple truth is, we don’t. And that is ok. Lighten up on yourself. And remember, you may not know everything, but you are a genius at what you do know.
7. Smile – you don’t own all the problems in the world.
We tend to think that when things go wrong, we are somehow responsible for it, no matter what it is. And we want to fix it. At the very least, we chastise ourselves for things that we cannot possibly be the cause of, or for not knowing how to solve things. So smile, and know that you are only responsible for what happens in your immediate space. Let the rest take care of itself. If you can contribute to a solution, then absolutely do so, but don’t carry it all on your shoulders.
Let’s blow off a little steam! Humor Wednesday is back with quotes from the late, great George Carlin. I chose some of the clean ones! He was a great and a superb comedian! Also, a few funny pics. Hope you get a good chuckle and enjoy your middle of the week! Blessings!
“No one knows what’s next, but everybody does it.”
“Men are from Earth, women are from Earth. Deal with it.”
“Just when I discovered the meaning of life, they changed it.”
“Isn’t it a bit unnerving that doctors call what they do a “practice”?”
““No comment” is a comment.”
“It isn’t fair: the caterpillar does all the work, and the butterfly gets all the glory.”
“If it’s true that our species is alone in the universe, then I’d have to say that the universe aimed rather low and settled for very little.”
“People who say they don’t care what people think are usually desperate to have people think they don’t care what people think.”
(All quotes by George Carlin)
“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” ~ Franklin D. Roosevelt
“Fear can make a moth seem the size of a bull elephant.” ~ Stephen Richards
“Men are not afraid of things, but of how they view them.” ~ Epictetus
“Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers, but to be fearless in facing them. Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain, but for the heart to conquer it.” ~ Rabindranath Tagore
“Thinking will not overcome fear but action will.” ~ W. Clement Stone
“Who sees all beings in his own self, and his own self in all beings, loses all fear.” ~ Isa Upanishad
“You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
“Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear.” ~ Ambrose Redmoon
from the Desk of MarDrag:
I was contemplating fear these past few days as I was faced with a family situation. I was also thinking how the people of the east coast must have spent hours in the grip of fear as they witnessed the recent hurricane Sandy bear down on their homes. Others face different challenges that cause fear to grip their bellies hard. There are many things, great and small, that we face every day that may bring that twinge of fear to our minds and hearts, and I wondered about how to deal with that fear.
We have all heard the first quote above, and many times I have admittedly balked at it or been unable to accept it as truth. I have even said that quote to many people that I work with, believing it, but with some reservation. Because, I think, we have so many things to fear, how can it end up just being fear itself? That would seem to be too easy. If it was just fear we fear, then how hard would it be to put it to rest, and let it go? To banish it forever?
The thing is, fear can make the smallest concern “the size of a bull elephant” as Stephen Richards says above. Things grow huge in the face of fear, just like the reflection in those crazy mirrors in the funhouse at amusement parks. So, if the mirror is fear, and the reflection is how we view that fear, than the next quote by Epictetus would be true. That it is not the thing itself, but how we view it. So in looking only at the reflection, rather than the fear (mirror) itself, we are tricked into believing it is so frightening that we will be unable to handle it.
We cannot prevent certain things from happening. We cannot control what nature or destiny has planned. But, we can decide to see past the reflection that fear shows us, and, when we would succumb to the trickery of fear, instead we can take action to subdue and conquer it. By turning to the mirror and facing what we fear, full on, we eliminate that which would eat our energy up, be able to use that energy to acknowledge that which has come, and then take the action necessary to protect, shield, shelter ourselves or loved ones or eliminate (or handle) the source of that fear entirely.
We are all humans who have and face fears. We are all one and the same in that respect. We can share and learn from each other, join hearts and hands and support each other. Look into each other’s eyes and hearts and know that, just like our own individual self, that person sitting or standing next to us has their own fear to face, has their own challenge to overcome. Whatever it might be, large or small, it is like a bull elephant in the face of their fear. No one is different in facing fear, we are all the same.
Courage is our greatest weapon against fear. The more we focus on our courage, the less power fear will have over us. But then put Courage (from deep within us), Trust (in our abilities and wisdom) and Action (by our inner warrior) together….and fear does not stand a chance!