You Are Not Alone



by Maya Angelou

Lying, thinking, Last night, How to find my soul a home, Where water is not thirsty, And bread loaf is not stone, I came up with one thing, And I don’t believe I’m wrong, That nobody, But nobody, Can make it out here alone.

Alone, all alone, Nobody, but nobody, Can make it out here alone.

There are some millionaires, With money they can’t use, Their wives run round like banshees, Their children sing the blues, They’ve got expensive doctors, To cure their hearts of stone, But nobody, No, nobody, Can make it out here alone.

Alone, all alone, Nobody, but nobody, Can make it out here alone.

Now if you listen closely, I’ll tell you what I know, Storm clouds are gathering, The wind is gonna blow, The race of man is suffering, And I can hear the moan,, ‘Cause nobody, But nobody, Can make it out here alone.

Alone, all alone, Nobody, but nobody, Can make it out here alone.

from the Desk of MarDrag:

It seems that so many are going through rough times or hardships these days….and with the holidays upon us….some can feel more alone than ever. Even with people around, or support, one can still feel isolated….or as if there is no one just for them, no one to hold a hand, or lend an ear, a shoulder, just for them.

But the poem above says, no one can make it out here alone….and so, let us gather round each other and hold hands, and hearts in hands, and let each other know without a doubt that no one has to be alone…no one has to go through it alone.

Over these last months, I have seen it happen over and over again at the Lynn’s Place blog and here….that when a soul is hurt or burdened, all they need to do is speak of it, and virtually every kind and giving person reaches out, extends their hand and offers a gift from their heart to lift the spirits from sadness, and let these people know….that they are not alone.

While I grieve for those whose lives are touched by heavy loads they carry…..I am also touched by the compassion and support that all of these wonderful people gather together to serve as a cushion so that those heavy loads do not crush…..and my faith in (wo)mankind is reborn every day that I spend with these people….and I know that, no matter what happens….all will be right with the world because they are in it.

Let my hand join yours as I reach out to help strengthen that cushion and tell you…from me….you are not alone! If you think you are, I am here for you. (Let me know what I can do either in the comments here, or see my contact page above.)

With so much love to all of you!


28 comments on “You Are Not Alone

  1. thank you Mar, we can feel alone even with people around us because at the end of the day (and during the day for that matter) we are alone with our thoughts and our troubles. it is good when others offer their ears and support. in the past, i would just say thanks and not take them on the offer. when i did, i would regret it. Now, i simply let it happen. if the person offers, i go with it sharing what feels ok to share. it feels good to open up, and it feels good to get the support. as you said, we cant make it alone. if we need the help, we should take the offers, at the same time, if we see someone in need, we should land a hand.

  2. MarDrag, Since the Monday assault at my blog, I’ve been in a bit of a bad place. I let people down and I don’t know how to fix it. I hope you don’t mind if I just sit here for a while, read the good and kind things you write, and just try to get my head on straight again. Thanks again for what you do and for letting me hide out here.

    • Empress…. you can come and be here as long as you need to. I hope you find something that helps.

      I am sorry for your pain and that you are in a bad place. It is sometimes difficult to “fix” something, so be patient and let some time pass. Things have a way of working out when we put our intentions in the right place.

      Also remember that….we are human….and we let people down sometimes. We all do it!! I am sure it has been done TO you as well. The thing is….this one thing does not define you as the whole person that you are. It is one thing that happened, and should not color your life over and negate all the other wonderful things about you.

      We are harder than anyone on ourselves……try to give yourself some compassion and understanding…..the same you would give to someone else. If there is something you can do to make things right…..put your intention on that….and it will come to you. If it ends up there isn’t, then the people who love you truly will forgive you and move on. The rest, you may have to let go….but, that is all part of life and growth.

      I send you good and loving energy. If I can help in any way, or you want to talk it out, contact me via my contact page above.

      For now, sit comfortably here….and feel the love and hugs wrap around you!!

      • Thank you MarDrag. Thanksgiving is the worst holiday for me. My Mom was killed 4 days after Thanksgiving in 2002. Most of the time I can make it through the day, but the least little problem and I’m a complete basket case. I’m sorry to bring all of that here, but I hope it explains why this is bothering me more than it normally would.

      • Sweetie….there is absolutely no need to apologize! That is what this blog is for, for people in need. I am just glad you found your way here!

        Having said that, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. One never really gets over something like that, you learn to live with it as best you can.

        Know that I am sending you love and good energy and hopes that your situation works out for you. Please do let me know if I can help in any way.


      • ((empressofaiken))

        I like to make the holidays special and happy to get myself and all around me happy, but it is really sad 😦 this year, I am not doing anything. Trying can get exauting and expensive, and for what?

    • (((Empress)))
      I am so sorry about your Mom. It’s amazing how the pain of something like what you experienced can come back so intensely with only the slighest provocation. I understand as it happens to me (more than it should lately).
      I was without my computer for a couple of days and didn’t have a chance to read my usual blogs like I normally do (playing catch up now). But I went back and saw what happened. I know you don’t want it to be discussed further but I just wanted to reach out to you. I really enjoy your blog and the posters just as I do this one and a few others. I am sorry that had to happen. But you handled it with tremedous grace and dignity. I mean that.

    • Good Morning Empress! I just read through yesterday’s comments (I took a “no tech” day yesterday!)….and read Boobah’s. When I responded to your original comment here, I had no idea what had happened….but I did go back to do some reading and I completely agree with Boobah. You were exceptional.

      And, while I too know you do not want more attention drawn to it, I DID want you to know you inspired today’s post “Surviving Life”. Thank you for that inspiration and I hope you like the post.

      Hugs to you!!

  3. Such a lovely blog, Mardrag. You have an amazing way with words and a huge heart. Knowing that I’m not alone in my hardships and trepidations is comforting on some level. I liked the flow of todays posts because feeling alone and being alone are two different things. I may not have thought about the difference. While I like being alone at times, I do not like feeling alone.

    Cali, I liked how you mentioned acceptance. It’s true that sometimes we might need to accept whatever our situation is at the time. It’s cool that you kind of re-framed a negative into a postive. Instead of dwelling you learned to enjoy being alone. That is awesome.

    And JustDee, I know that sometimes I NEED to be alone. To not think, to reduce worrying, to just feel peaceful. Yeah, alone is sometimes exactly what the doctor ordered.

    Happy belated Thanksgiving to you all. My computer had a virus and had to be fixed so I wasn’t able to read and post as much as I normally do. I am so glad to have it back. I really missed my daily blog reading!


    • hi Boobah,

      thanks 🙂 happy thanksgiving to you too. i got sick that continued through yesterday and today. i am done, i think if im careful with what i eat.

      but going back to “alone”, i appreciated being sick alone because I did not feel judged for it. i did not feel like i had to do anything but concentrate on feeling better. of course, it would have been nice to have someone care for me in person, but until it is a person who will care, i did prefer being alone.

      • HI Cali – I sense that I have missed something – you haven’t been feeling well? I gathered this by the other posts. I am so sorry that you don’t feel well. I hope it isn’t serious and that you feel better soon. (((Cali)))

        And I am sorry that I might have mis-read your posts (when I wrote about re-framing a negative into a postive – I think you might have been writing about something else but I am not sure). Although I still think you make really excellent points and I really enjoy your posts. 🙂 I agree that if a person isn’t there for you in the capacity with which you need them then it is better to be alone as you try to mend. I completely understand. When I have terrible anxious moments I would much rather deal with it by myself than have someone there trying to help. When it’s really bad I take great comfort in Mardrag’s blog because it is full of gentle encouragement and kindness. It makes me realize that I am not alone and that we all have struggles.

        Feel better soon.

      • Boobah, you didn’t miss anything 🙂 I did mean what I said and you understood 🙂

        In the process I also got some bug that had me sick since thanksgiving, that got worst when I got home that night. I felet better yesterday and I think I am fine now. Luckily i still have one day more off, that I hope to enjoy before going back to work tomorrow 🙂

        Thanks for asking, how are you?

    • Welcome back Boobah! You have been missed! I am glad you got things fixed and are back among the fold!

      This was an interesting post and I love everyone’s comments. There is, indeed, a difference between being alone and feeling lonely. Like others have said, I love my alone time. It gives me the chance to regroup, think, and do the things that I like to do. But, I don’t ever want to feel like I am alone in the world with no one to turn to or count on when I need them. The best is to find a balance between both, I think.

      I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving! I look forward to more enlightening conversations with you! 🙂

      • Thanks Mardrag! It feels great to be back in the mix. I missed reading your amazing blogs. You really have something special here. I had one of the best Thanksgivings that I have ever had in quite a while. I needed that. Hope you had a wonderful T-day as well.

        I know whatcha mean…I don’t like feeling alone without anyone to turn to. There are times that I feel that way but being a member of this blog and Empress`s, and NMD’s helps me feel connected. For me, it can be so hard to strike a balance between healthy alone time and isolation. I think I need a more than average amount of time to unwind and disconnect but I am trying to figure out what is healthy. It’s funny because when I go out, I am social and engaged in great conversations and feel genuinely interested in other people. I enjoy it. But I think I need it in small doses otherwise I am overloaded. I have no idea if this is normal – and this is what makes me feel alone. I prefer being with my hubby and animals and chilling out reading, watching TV, or doing household stuff. Am I the only person who can only handle socializing in small doses? *sighs* Truthfully, I think that I think too much!!! LOL!

      • Boobah, I am so glad you had such a great T-day! (They are not always that way, LOL!) I too, had a wonderful day and it was just as I wanted it.

        To answer your question, NO, you are not the only one who likes alot of alone time! 🙂 I read your comments while shaking my head in affirmative….I am the same way. I love people and love to socialize. I am also a Leo and we are very gregarious. But when I am done, I am done, and I want to be home in my sacred space doing the things I love and being with loved ones.

        I think part of it is, as I grow older, I am more comfortable with myself. But the other part is…..for me, the world seems a harsher place these days and the assault on my senses sometimes is overwhelming. There are days when I go out that I just think, oh, I can’t wait to get home!

        The other thing for me too is that, I have such empathy for the pain and anguish most people are in these days and I want to do so much more to help people, so I go out and see all that and it makes me sad. I wish there was more I could do…..but at least I can make some small contribution with this blog. I would love to reach more people though. I have got ideas!

        So, in closing… are right where you are supposed to be and doing what you need to do. Stop judging your process and yourself. You are fine!! 🙂

        Love and hugs!!

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