Overcoming Fear


“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”  ~ Franklin D. Roosevelt

“Fear can make a moth seem the size of a bull elephant.”  ~ Stephen Richards

“Men are not afraid of things, but of how they view them.”  ~ Epictetus

“Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers, but to be fearless in facing them. Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain, but for the heart to conquer it.”  ~ Rabindranath Tagore

“Thinking will not overcome fear but action will.” ~ W. Clement Stone

“Who sees all beings in his own self, and his own self in all beings, loses all fear.” ~ Isa Upanishad

“You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

“Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear.” ~ Ambrose Redmoon

from the Desk of MarDrag:

I was contemplating fear these past few days as I was faced with a family situation. I was also thinking how the people of the east coast must have spent hours in the grip of fear as they witnessed the recent hurricane Sandy bear down on their homes. Others face different challenges that cause fear to grip their bellies hard. There are many things, great and small, that we face every day that may bring that twinge of fear to our minds and hearts, and I wondered about how to deal with that fear.

We have all heard the first quote above, and many times I have admittedly balked at it or been unable to accept it as truth. I have even said that quote to many people that I work with, believing it, but with some reservation. Because, I think, we have so many things to fear, how can it end up just being fear itself? That would seem to be too easy. If it was just fear we fear, then how hard would it be to put it to rest, and let it go? To banish it forever?

The thing is, fear can make the smallest concern “the size of a bull elephant” as Stephen Richards says above. Things grow huge in the face of fear, just like the reflection in those crazy mirrors in the funhouse at amusement parks. So, if the mirror is fear, and the reflection is how we view that fear, than the next quote by Epictetus would be true. That it is not the thing itself, but how we view it. So in looking only at the reflection, rather than the fear (mirror) itself, we are tricked into believing it is so frightening that we will be unable to handle it.

We cannot prevent certain things from happening. We cannot control what nature or destiny has planned. But, we can decide to see past the reflection that fear shows us, and, when we would succumb to the trickery of fear, instead we can take action to subdue and conquer it. By turning to the mirror and facing what we fear, full on, we eliminate that which would eat our energy up, be able to use that energy to acknowledge that which has come, and then take the action necessary to protect, shield, shelter ourselves or loved ones or eliminate (or handle) the source of that fear entirely.

We are all humans who have and face fears. We are all one and the same in that respect. We can share and learn from each other, join hearts and hands and support each other. Look into each other’s eyes and hearts and know that, just like our own individual self, that person sitting or standing next to us has their own fear to face, has their own challenge to overcome. Whatever it might be, large or small, it is like a bull elephant in the face of their fear. No one is different in facing fear, we are all the same.

Courage is our greatest weapon against fear. The more we focus on our courage, the less power fear will have over us. But then put Courage (from deep within us), Trust (in our abilities and wisdom) and Action (by our inner warrior) together….and fear does not stand a chance!



4 comments on “Overcoming Fear

  1. Mardrag, I am sorry that you had a scary family situation. I won’t pry but I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

    I read this post a couple of separate times today. This was just the reminder I needed. I am serious. It’s been a helluva week, with another dang storm tomorrow and I am worry/anxiety prone. This was a calming.

    Thank you.

    • Thank you Boobah. We are ok! And I am glad you found something calming here. Keep your eye on the real issue, and don’t let the fear take over the energy you need to face whatever comes and prepare. Fear drains us of all that useful energy…then we still have to face what comes.

      I heard the storm may not be as bad as first thought. I will be praying very hard that is so! You have been through so much, but, if this adds to it….you WILL find the strength to make it through, even if you are not feeling that at the moment.

      Sending you strength, courage and hugs! And prayers that lighten that storm!

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